The Jerk in disguise

I don't know how many of you were aware that I had left the site in April due to the fact that I had met a guy. This guy I felt understood me so much and provided so much support for me. However after 4 months all of my dependence on him drove him away. As he put it when he broke up with me because I'm "Too emotionally needy". It hurt me soo badly, I was head over heels in love with him and he said he was too. Except he said he wasn't sure he ever was *OUCH*. I now realize that I can't place all of my problems on one person and I really do need this place for support. The thing that upsets me and makes me angry is he said he loved me and if he did, he'd love me no matter what. To top it off he called me up and told me he has been seeing a new girl LESS than 3 weeks after he broke up with me.

Ouch. I feel your pain. ((((((((((((Spaz))))))))))

what a disappointment and what he jerk he turned out to be! i'm so sorry and you have our love and support. xoxox pat

((((((((((((((katt))))))))))))))))) we're here for you.

are you in t? please remind me. t could help you to learn to depend on and soothe self more and on a regular basis. might this be an option? IF, of course, you think your ex was right. dismiss anything i said if you think it was just an excuse for him.

wishing you well,

he encouraged me to get therapy, I did, however I was not "FIXED" soon enough for him. He was frustrated that it seemed I wasn't making any progress.

((((((((((Katt)))))))))))
He would have been there for you and your emotional "neediness" if he truely did love you.
I know it's painful. You'll get through it, though.

He does not seem like a very nice person The fact that he called you up to tell you that he was seeing something appears to me that he is trying to prove something to himself.. Prehaps he feels that he could not help you therefore he may have felt in a sense "useless" from what I have read males tend to like to fix things it is a way of proving masculinity (This is mostly an unconscious type thing. men don't go around saying I am going to fix this because it will make me feel like a man) by seeing someone new he may unconsciously be trying to prove that he is a man because it gives him someone he can try to help. This is just my opinion though.... Either way I am sorry that you had to deal with it

I have had that happen to me twice in the past 3 years...I was in a long term relationship with a guy for...about 6 years (on and off)...I was physically ill 3 years ago and he left because he "couldn't take it"....yet when I got engaged (that's a long story but that is what landed me here on this site), he wanted nothing more than to be with me. He started looking at engagement rings!

As soon as I left school this past January and began to have problems coping, now he does not refer to me as his girlfriend...in fact, I referred to him as my boyfriend out of habit in a posting on this site and he threw a fit....

What can I say...men make no sense...I think people have a hard time with adversity, but I can tell you, the right man will be very supportive of you, no matter what the situation....

Here is my favorite example: A very good friend of mine from high school had problems with depression, OCD, and bulimia her whole life....3 years ago she met someone who understands her and now they are happily married with a house and living in North Carolina (at the age of 25)...

((((((hugs)))))))))) Yack