A bit scared because of an ex-bestfriend

So, dunno as usual if this is in the right place, but I just recently learned from my ex-bestfriend's ex-boyfriend that she had told him a little while ago that she felt that she could destroy me mentally if she could talk to me. Literally.

I don't doubt that she feels this way, because one, she hates my guts (though I don't know why?) and she has always gone out of her way to ruin my relationships with other people. She'll take my friends, and make her friends hate me, make me think I was in the wrong and manipulate me, as well as other people to "teach me lessons" as she put it once in April.. We had a good friendship when it was good, but somewhere it changed, I don't know where, or why, but she got horrible.. and now she is crazy and obsessed with me. She's always trying to contact me in one way or another and now I realize it's cause she wants to destroy me..? ._.'

She was just an online friend so it's easy to keep the distance, I've been doing it for a long time now, but knowing that she feels so strongly about this... I can't help but be a little scared.. I'm 15 and she claims (I realize now you just never know) she is 13. I met her when I was 12 and she was 10.. So I've known her for a while and all this.. this side of her personality I never knew..

Can you block her emails/Facebook or however she is contacting you? She sounds like a very mean person that you should avoid in every way.

I have, believe me. But she knows the information to someone who is friends with both her and me (and refuses to see her true nature) and there have been times when she got in and tried talking to me. I seen right through it, cause she has certain quirks about her that come out strong no matter who she pretends to be (plus I knew her for 3 years), and she'll get mad and leave for about 2 weeks to 2 months and try again. last month she added me on an account of her friends and i automatically deleted her. She just doesn't stop. I haven't been her friend properly since the beginning of April. and even before that I wasn't her friend for about a year. she's always coming back and trying.

I wouldn't be too afraid of her; she's younger than you are and you are doing an excellent job of deleting her and not giving her a chance to talk to you so who cares what she believes; you still have the control over who you talk to and can walk away/delete her at every chance.

yeah, I know. It's just quite freaky to hear someone tell you that some person you used to be friends with wants to "mentally destroy" you.

Yes i agree with perna u are older then her and doing a very good job of deleting her..
If u don't want to have any touch with her.. Then i think it would be good to completely drive her out of ur mind..
If u don't react she won't ever be able to bother u..
I know it's hard to forget when someone says such a thing abt u..
If she still doesn't stops tormenting u go to her and talk straight ..
she might say she is innocent but u just make it clear to her that u don't want to have anything to do with her....
I hope all get's well..
Tkcr..
Have a good life..

Man, she just came back again. On someone else's e-mail as usual. She tried talking to me, trying to force me to confess that I was still talking to my ex/her boyfriend. I wasn't so nice, and my Dad told me I shouldn't even have accepted the friend request, but I always want to see what she has to say for some reason. I managed to drive her, or her friend, away with my attitude and the fact that I refused to deny or admit I was still talking to him. However it gave me so much anxiety.. when she left it took all I could not to cry. It wasn't cause of what she said, or how talking to her freaks me out, but it was just I really want her to leave me alone, it was just that bad. I mean, I'm so tired of it, it's been so long. I didn't know I was just so important to her that she can't go 2 weeks without talking to me in some way.

May be she can't go two weeks with out talking to u so that she can come back and again make it worse for u..
Don't let her do that to u..
U have to decide now if u can really trust this girl enough to let her come back in ur life..
Or if not then talk straight to her..
As i have told earlier the more u keep things up to u the more it will complicate..
Tell her u don't want to talk to her or have any contacts with her..
Hope u can do that..
Be strong..
All the best..
I'm sure u will get through all of it..

I know, when I say important I mean just a big deal, or a big thing she can't leave alone. I don't trust her, she really does only come back to bother and harass me. Try to "break me" she says. I tell her to leave me alone a lot, and my attitude when she comes around further enhances it. She has some self-esteem issues, and is a chronic liar and some other things. Lots of people have told me she does this out of jealousy more than hatred. Some people have said that when she comes back and says she truly misses me that could be true, but then she gets jealous again and tries to bring me down to make herself feel better. She has been set on making others hate me with lies, stealing the boys I like, getting my friends to turn against me, etc. Last year in April she got all her friends to attack and harass me, and this year she only went after and took someone who was really close and special to me. She thinks by doing this she can hurt me and scar me permanently, make me less than who I am.

I know jealousy plays a big role in her feelings about me, as she's told me before and people who were friends with both of us have said it too. But if it is jealousy there is nothing I can do about that, I tried for so long, and it's gotten to be so bad that it's an obsession for her. When I confronted her about this, she got all defensive saying I wasn't the only one she did it to, I shouldn't feel special or anything. I don't, but three years of knowing her and almost 2 of those years being constant and total harassment, comes across to me as being obsessed and I'm tired of it. I got tired of holding her hand, babying her and forgiving her for everything she's done, but now she refuses to let go and I'm the one who has to suffer for it.. All I want is for her to just leave me alone, if she hated me as much as she said she did, this shouldn't be so difficult!

u r right.. i understand it's a tough situation.. hope u get through it.. u have to be strong.. i pray u get through it and she leaves u alone.. tc

uh, sounds like a sociopathic scenario.

It takes two to tango. If it were me, I'd skip the next potential "jerry springer" episode. But that's just me...other folks would prefer the "jerry springer" experience.

Yeah, watching it is fun. Living it...no way. ; )