[Snowleopard56]

Since my other post about the same subject hasn't gained any interaction from anyone here, then let me ask you all 1 very important question here,

YOU CAN'T HAVE A HEALTHY LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT

COMMUNICATING !

You want others to help you with your problems, FINE !

Learn to communicate and interact instead of ignoring it !

You want your soul mate to listen to your issues but he/she doesn't and that's why you come here to seek answers, LEARN TO COMMUNICATE !

99.9 % of problems can be avoided through COMMUNICATION !

[Perna]

Ah, but the rub is how do you learn to communicate? One often isn't taught good communication skills by one's parents or has a personality that shies away from interaction, etc. I took a college Speech class course on "Listening" and learned so very much (and kept the textbook). Communication has to go two way and I may be a wonderful communicator but if I'm not heard or if I send but don't receive well etc. It ain't easy.

True, communication is necessary for a relationship of any kind to thrive, but I feel understanding is just as vital. Perhaps I'm wrong though. Common sense probably outweights both.

In any sense, I think you bring up a good point, Snow.

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Snowleopard56

Since my other post about the same subject hasn't gained any interaction from anyone here, then let me ask you all 1 very important question here,

YOU CAN'T HAVE A HEALTHY LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT

COMMUNICATING !

You want others to help you with your problems, FINE !

Learn to communicate and interact instead of ignoring it !

You want your soul mate to listen to your issues but he/she doesn't and that's why you come here to seek answers, LEARN TO COMMUNICATE !

99.9 % of problems can be avoided through COMMUNICATION !

I don't believe in soul mates. I do believe in good communication skills, which can be learned. Good communication is a wonderful thing!

[shezbut]

Hi Snowleopard56,

Sorry that your other post didn't get much of a response. (I've had days/times like that ~ I can relate to your emotional mind)

Your post seems angry to me and I'm curious if there is a question to your post after all, or if it's more of a statement?? You're free to leave both, of course, I was just wanting to be sure that I didn't miss something.

I do agree with you on relationships requiring open communication. It is a good point that we all need to remind ourselves of (in all types of relationships). People often aren't looking at the same thing in the same state of mind, and we have different perspectives. In my opinion, that is the helpful part of forums. We all have some things in common, as well as some differences, we can use those things to our advantage to help each other feel a little better. Just hearing other perspectives on a big problem can help steady our emotions a bit.

That's my opinion ~ best wishes to you!

[sunrise]

I agree, communication is very important. I have been going to see a therapist for a few years and have learned a lot of communication skills from him. It is a very big deal to learn to communicate effectively. This is a favorite book of mine on communication. I highly recommend it!

Non-violent Communication: A Language of Life
by Marshall Rosenberg

[El-ahrairah]

it is very much so! however it's hard when you've never communicated well with anyone before-hand ;[

[Snowleopard56]

I want to thank everyone for your personal comments on this subject, THANK YOU !

As many of you already know, There's no such thing as a Right or Wrong way when it comes to communicating with another individual, You can read all the books you want but the reality of this is, Communication is very Unique to each and every single human being !

Each of us has our own way of communicating with others and honestly, that's what makes communication challenging to begin with.

My Fellow Human Beings, am here to teach, not get in someone's head and tell them what makes them tick. Each of us is a Teacher and if we didn't care about others, we wouldn't be here trying to help others, now would we ?

I'd like to see this topic become a Life Learning exercise where everyone participates. Am sure there are many other sites on the internet where we can find the same thing but this is our home for Human Beings !

We need to help others in learning about themselves, We need to instill within them that they are not alone and should not be afraid !

With Communication comes being Responsible and being held Accountable.

Am not being PAID to do what am doing here !

Am doing what I feel is right and that's helping my fellow Human Being !

[IceCreamKid]

Originally Posted by Snowleopard56

I want to thank everyone for your personal comments on this subject, THANK YOU !

As many of you already know, There's no such thing as a Right or Wrong way when it comes to communicating with another individual, You can read all the books you want but the reality of this is, Communication is very Unique to each and every single human being !

Each of us has our own way of communicating with others and honestly, that's what makes communication challenging to begin with.

My Fellow Human Beings, am here to teach, not get in someone's head and tell them what makes them tick. Each of us is a Teacher and if we didn't care about others, we wouldn't be here trying to help others, now would we ?

I'd like to see this topic become a Life Learning exercise where everyone participates. Am sure there are many other sites on the internet where we can find the same thing but this is our home for Human Beings !

We need to help others in learning about themselves, We need to instill within them that they are not alone and should not be afraid !

With Communication comes being Responsible and being held Accountable.

Am not being PAID to do what am doing here !

Am doing what I feel is right and that's helping my fellow Human Being !

I gently disagree. There are several 'wrong' ways to communicate, in my opinion. I had a parent who chose to communicate by alternating snarling at me and ignoring me. I had a boss who communicated by shrieking, screaming and shouting. I had a spouse who communicated by waiting until my back was turned and then muttering wounding things under his breath, then when I asked "what did you say?" denying he'd said anything at all. Then of course there is communication through slaps, punches and kicks and equally as bad, the threat of violence, because that is the communication that uses the person's own emotions against him or her. Communication is an interesting subject, one I'm not willing to say is a free-for-all and it's all good. If it were all good, I'd say many folks wouldn't have emotional problems. Just my teachable moment.

Communicating- 1) "Share or exchange information or ideas"
2) "pass on, transmit, or convey (an emotion, disease, heat, etc.)"
(Both from Oxford dictionary)

I do agree with IceCream on this one. Communication can occur via talking, signing, and more, like Ice mentioned. I can see where your going though, Snow. I sometimes feel there's only black and white about some ideas to make more possibly to make more sense about a certain subject. Communication can certainly be one of them in the sense that one can usually have good sorts of communication and hardly any bad ones. Sometimes, one can brush off mean words, gestures, the like, making one forget what bad communication can be.

As for the books though, I can see where your going again because I tend to think the same way sometimes. Reading can get so frustrating. Books are valuable though. They convey ideas thought by one, but maybe never thought of by another. Fathom that!

[salukigirl]

Snow - Since we are all allowed our own opinions, mine is that you are very angry and have a superiority complex.

You don't think we realize that 99.9% of relationship problems stem from that? It helps to get it off your chest. And not everyone has the resources to learn about the different ways to communicate. Not to mention, everyones situation is different.

If you are so passionate about how stupid people on here are (that's how I understood your original post) then don't even bother looking. I'm pretty upset about your post and will not be reading anymore. Take your negative and condescending attitude elsewhere.

[Snowleopard56]

Originally Posted by salukigirl

Snow - Since we are all allowed our own opinions, mine is that you are very angry and have a superiority complex.

You don't think we realize that 99.9% of relationship problems stem from that? It helps to get it off your chest. And not everyone has the resources to learn about the different ways to communicate. Not to mention, everyones situation is different.

If you are so passionate about how stupid people on here are (that's how I understood your original post) then don't even bother looking. I'm pretty upset about your post and will not be reading anymore. Take your negative and condescending attitude elsewhere.

Am going to overlook the fact that your personally attacking me and by the sound of your comment, YOU HAVE ALREADY JUDGED ME !

As far as I am concerned, this is our first interaction between us and as such, if there was a problem between you and i, it should have been reported early on to begin with. If anyone has a problem here, it's YOU !

Communication is like a MINEFIELD ! You have to constantly watch where you step so you don't become a casualty. Everyone knows this, esp myself ! It may not have occurred to anyone because it's so obvious to begin with, but communication is so vital not only in relationships but life itself.

I mentioned that there is no Right nor Wrong way in communicating, maybe I didn't clarify myself or became distracted but I believe that each individual has their own methods when communicating with others. You can not dispute the fact that when you encounter a problem, you were taught the correct steps in solving that problem.

In order to understand if a problem does in fact exist, YOU must learn to recognize the problem to begin with ! PROBLEMS, among human beings will never, ever get solved unless said problem is brought to one's attention and many of these problems are created by ourselves.

I do not believe that anyone here can dispute the fact that we are our own worst enemy .

[Snowleopard56]

Originally Posted by salukigirl

Snow - Since we are all allowed our own opinions, mine is that you are very angry and have a superiority complex.

You don't think we realize that 99.9% of relationship problems stem from that? It helps to get it off your chest. And not everyone has the resources to learn about the different ways to communicate. Not to mention, everyones situation is different.

If you are so passionate about how stupid people on here are (that's how I understood your original post) then don't even bother looking. I'm pretty upset about your post and will not be reading anymore. Take your negative and condescending attitude elsewhere.

BTW, I never once said people were STUPID !

If you were a COP beating up on me for no reason, Am afraid am going to have to ask you " What's wrong Officer, You didn't get any last night ! " or I might say this " Winchell's donuts didn't have your favorite cream filled donut, Officer ? "