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#1
Jul 01, 2009, 01:17 PM
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hello everyone, im here with a problem. actually i have a weak point and that is i cant move on once someone ditches me. this has happened to me recently once again and im still unable to go on even after 6 months. that guy n me werent in a physical relationship as that kind of relationship doesnt occur very frequently in this part of world but yet we girls get equally hurt when we break up n the other person just wouldnt give any valid reasons for his behavior n ignoring. can i anyone here can tell me HOW to forget all that happened with me? plz do come up with some ideas. i'll be grateful.
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Jul 01, 2009, 05:49 PM
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I usual start being more active with my friends, and getting out of the house more. If he is a guy in his mid 20's or older, I call guys like this a pig.
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Jul 01, 2009, 07:28 PM
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Hi Jiakhan. I think you might find it more helpful to place your attention back on yourself and your life rather than focusing on the guy. Good suggestion from jerrymichele to seek out your other friends and get involved in activities you enjoy.
Also realize that the reason the guy stopped showing interest may having nothing to do with you at all. It may be all about him and what's going on inside him or in his life. We all want to assume it's our fault when a relationship ends. But usually it really is about the other person, what they think they need or want or lack. When it is right with a guy you will know it instinctively. Until then consider all failed relationships as learning experiences and perhaps you won't feel so bad about yourself, or so hurt. 
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Jul 02, 2009, 01:53 PM
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thanks dear. i have posted a more detailed post on the forum so that u can have a better idea of my situation. i really want to move on.
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Dec 30, 2009, 09:24 AM
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yeah jerrythis guy is in 20s... 
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Jul 24, 2010, 11:27 AM
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haha jerry he's actually 23! 
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Jul 24, 2010, 09:14 PM
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Time to go a little further back in time and look at either the first significant relationship that failed, or person who left you without an explanation.
With some relationships where there is not really a relationship happening, we see more into it than really is there and when it folds completely we are left wondering what happnened. Focus on yourself rather than a failed relationship or perceived failed relationship...you will never find a reason if there was no relationship to begin with... Hope you feel better soon
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Jul 25, 2010, 08:45 AM
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Rhiannonsmoon, you are so correct in saying that we never find the reason behind a perceived failed relationship bcoz there wasnt anything to begin with!
 i was so emotionally dependent on the guy i have mentioned in this thread that when he left me it took me more than a year to get over him. to be honest i still wonder have i really got over him or its just that im in a denial state. 
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Jul 25, 2010, 10:17 AM
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Emotions are not like some unwanted trash that we can just dump when we want to. It seems useless to keep on hurting, but it's not actually useless. Your emotions are telling you that "how can you choose to trust such a guy" or "this keeps on happening with me. Why don't you protect me?" I suspect you may be over-sensitive to rejection; maybe you try to get accepted by other people, ignoring your own warning signals, if any, that this person may not be right for you. I am just speculating to point out to you that you can learn so much about you from this incident and be better at preventing such incidences from happening again. |
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Jul 26, 2010, 03:52 PM
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I found out going to gym or doing any kinds of physical activities like hiking, jogging, swimming help a lot....also, reading inspiring books and watching comedy movies help as well.....
don't be hard on yourself... |
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Jul 26, 2010, 04:50 PM
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It can take six months and another man! That's what it took with my boyfriend before my husband. Especially if you've been going with the person for a pretty good length of time; it might take equally as long to move on? Why would it take less time to break up than to get to know someone?
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Feb 01, 2011, 01:00 PM
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Im looking at this thread after a long time and im quite amazed at myself that i had been so in love wid this guy
 He has proved himself a scum bag over time. I dont love him any more but i sure have replaced my worries wid other useless issues.
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