Help! My girfriend's very mad... and depressive

Hi everone. Some of you may remeber when i posted here a couple months ago about my gf, because i was far from her in the summer as she has depressive attitudes. Well, now we're together again (live in the same apartment) and things have been going... sort of well. Anyway, the reason i'm writing now is because today i was supposed to go to lunch with her (she's working) but i didn't go because the alarm clock didn't go off and i stayed home sleeping. She called me half-way through her lunch hour, i told her what happened but she said she didn't want to hear it, for me not to bother going there now, that i was inresponsible (this had already happened some months ago), and that she didn't want me to walk her home from work (like i do every day).

I already imagine how she might be like when i see her (i plan on going to her work when she leaves anyway), she won't want to talk to me, she may come home and start hitting on herself, throwing things, telling me to leave, saying that she doesn't like me anymore... all i want to do is avoid this. What should i say to her?.............

Hi there and welcome back

Gosh oversleeping can happen....I do that myself the odd day too .

What I can offer for advice (from a woman's point of view) is to stop by and get a few pretty flowers....they don't have to be expensive...even 1 or 2 and try to have a smile on your face when you see her. Tell her you are sorry and leave it at that. Yes she may be still upset and then again she may not.

Try not to get into her mood...she may say and do things that upset you but all you can do is say you are sorry and leave it at that. It is up to her to want to accept and move on.

Let us know how you make out.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

Thanks for the flowers idea, I might do something like that... I usually don't because I feel like she's being very unfair to be. I understand that she get's upset, I do oversleep more times than i should and when i go meet her after work most of the times i'm 3 - 5 minutes late, and all this situation makes her mad. I just think that she exaggerates because i don't feel much like it's my fault, i know it was late (1:30 pm) but i slept only 2 hours the day before and the alarm didn't go off! How can i be to blame? But i know that these excuses mean little to her, it's not the first time i have this kind of excuse, but it's not on purpose. When she talked to me over the phone, almost yelling at me, i could hear that she was with her co-workers, she didn't even worry that that would embarass me.

I understand completely....it is not fair to you to be the brunt of her anger. I am not encouraging for you to give in at all....just say sorry and leave it at that. I thought the flowers may be a nice gesture and break the ice. Even nicer if you don't normally do that so it will be unexpected too

How is she doing health wise? Is she seeing her doctor? Is she on meds and/or therapy? It does sound like she should be seeing someone to work out these issues she has.


Heather

"The Pessimist complains about the wind, the Optimist expects it to change and the REALIST adjusts his sails." ~~~author unknown

I just want to say that everything went well, it took about 10 minutes for her to say a word to me, about 2 hours to actually talk. She said that she was fed up with my irresponsibilities, because every day i'm late when she leaves work. Even though I admit that I do have the bad habit of arriving late to places, I do have a reason to be 4 or 5 minutes late when i get her at work. She works in a high crime area, 3 months ago some guy hit me for no reason near where she works, so I don't like to wait for her there, and since when she's waiting for me she's always with someone else, i see no big deal. I told her all this, she seemed to understand and now she's not mad at me anymore, but I've decided to seek a psycologist for help next week. Even though she's fine now I know that in some days she's act like this again. It's always like this, everything seems well until she's about to have a crisis.

Thanks for your support heatherm, and Clau for helping me in the Chat section... It's always very nice to have someone listen.

Hey Vasco....

I'm so glad to read those lines !! it wasn´t that bad... see it ?!

Please don´t forget your app. for monday ok?!
Do it and you will see that everything's gonna be better every single day !!

Im here for u hun !
Take Care
Clau