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3 years ago we were in car accident which brought up everything I had hidden from the world I told him about my dark secret he helped me tell my mom and even report to the police I thought he was one. He helped me alot & my family but this last year I cant tell him how I feel. TOO emotional only anger anxiety,frustration and I lie 2him about any and everything .I never have been able to breakup w/ anyone because I make sure that I DONT get close.How do i tell him I NEED TO BE ALONE w/out losing a great friend?
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too emotional tried MANYtimes to end it but anxietyand depression make it hard 2leave.Rage and anger make it hard2talk. so I stay with denial confussed.What do i say or do?
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This is a hard one.. I've always been the one to break up with the other person basically because they were getting to close. I tend to start a fight then tell them we're just not right for one another. Which is probably why I'm still alone at 33. I hope someone with more insite responds as I'm at a loss here
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Are you afraid of him? Would it be easier if you had a friend with you while you tell him?? Do you think you could ask a close friend to be with you while you tell him??
Don't stay with someone that you know isn't "the" one. That's just wasting you life. Tell him as nicely as you can that you need to try things on your own for awhile. Tell him you need to do it for YOU. If he's a nice guy, he'll try to understand. Just make sure that YOU understand. God bless. Hugs, Lee |
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If he's not the one, and you consider him your friend, you owe it to him to tell him how you feel so you both can move on.
Maybe you can write out your feelings, to help you feel less confused, and that can help you talk to him about how you feel. He may not want to be friends with you at first, but you have to understand that he will be hurt - being with someone for 6 years is a long time and it will take some time to get over but maybe in the future you can be friends. I agree with Lee that you are wasting your life being with someone you don't want to be with and it's not right to be lying to someone all the time either - he's trusting you - let him go and take the time you need to be alone. If you have people to lean on for emotional support this is definitely the time to do it. Good luck! |
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Thanks tattoogirl33 for sharing youre experience with me that is what I use to do to not get close is to push people away and hate them, not care a single second of them. Now I give everything Ive got and cant even tell him that I hate him Because I love him and hate myself so much I cant be happy here. Plus I need to mend in my heart my issues I never dealt with.
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Sounds to me you would like to break away from your feelings not necessarily from him...
Did u try therapy? |
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