again. heartbroken. again.

i will never find a man to love me; to share my dreams with; to be one with.

for the past summer i had big hopes for a guy. we went out on 5 dates, i did something sexual with him, i was patient, kind, didn't use him. he just got out of a relationship (bad news, i know).

but alas, it's over. i know he's just not that into me. i don't know anymore, i give up. every guy i've ever been with has just been horrible. are there good guys out there? who are not shallow and want a smart woman that works hard? do men respect that?

Yes, there are decent men in the world. You might not find them hanging out among the horrible ones, though. Try going back over the people you've dated and see if there is a common thread (besides the horribleness) -- have they all been too immersed in careers to want a steady? Did many of them say upfront "I don't want a steady"? Were they already dating several other people? I don't think the problem you are encountering is you so much as it is your choice in men. Take more time to choose and take everything very slow and really listen to what they say (and what they don't say). I went on a date with a man who made eyes and spoke very sweetly to the waitress; it was blatant. There was no second date (although I wished him well ... and her too, lol). Love yourself and think of yourself as too special to waste on the horrible. I hope this helps.

Don't give up hope, palemoss; there are indeed many good, kind men out there who respect an intelligent woman who works hard.