[Judith22]

I have sunk so low. I keep talking to this guyu I had a sexual encounter with once. ALL HE EVER TALKS ABOUT IS SEX. HE DOESN'T WANT TO GET TO KNOW ME AT ALL. HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO KNOW HIM. he scares me. And I realized it tonight becuas eof some of the things he said. I hope I never end up sinking so low as to talk to him again. I am just desperate. arg! I am so glad I'm going to a support group tomorrow!!! Maybe I will meet some nice ppl there. Maybe they won't be crazy like this person I've been talking to.

i'm sorry, judith, that you're having a rough time right now. i hope that you will meet some nice people at the support group. anyone who doesn't want to get to know us, isn't worth spending time with. i'm glad you recognize that. good luck, pat

[Myzen]

Judith,

I hope you will be able to stay away from this guy, he sounds like the wrong person for you to be around.

When we are lonely we sometimes settle for things that we don't really want. It is a dangerous time. I think this is a time for you to be as strong as you can be, and to wait for something better to come along.

If you can put yourself in the right places, then the right people will come along for you, I'm sure of that.

This is a good place to start, and if you stick around here it will be such a help for you, there are lots of good people here.

PM me anytime Judith.

Good thoughts, M

[whatdoido]

I have just become a member here, And I am having some difficult times with being alone after a breakup! So I know how you feel about being loney! If anyone has any advise or info to help me get this time, please me know! Thanks!

[funnygirl]

Hi Judith

Some men are like that - all they talk about is your body or sex in general, or they want you to wear revealing or trashy clothes. Why can't they be serious about other things? It's so insulting, as if we're sex objects. This happens to me a lot even at my advanced age. I avoid this type of man if possible, once I realise the score. One or two dates and that's their lot! I move on. They're just dickheads, IMO.

So, you're not alone! There are (there must be) some nice men who like us for our personality, our intelligence?

I hope you had a good time at your group and met some decent people.

All good wishes, FG

[Lexicon78]

Some people out there are creeps and are only interested in one thing! There are some people out there that aren't only interested in sex. But there are a lot of selfish people out there!

Hang in there, there is someone out there who is right for you.

[Judith22]

he just sent me a valentine email with pictures of hearts and roses. what the f? I don't get him. He didn't say sorry for being a jerk or anything. A lot of ppl might say maybe this is his way of saying sorry, but for some reason I'm thinkin not. For some reason...
Plus I'm over him and don't feel like responding. At least not yet. I don't know what to say! Thatk you for the valentine you creep?

[funnygirl]

Hi Judith

Well, this guy didn't say 'sorry' because he doesn't realise he's done anything wrong! And even if he did, he should say so, not send a stupid commercial card. Some men are like that. They think we love all their sexual innuendos and moves. This guy sounds like a deeply superficial person, IMO.

Don't respond to his Valentine card, just ignore him and hopefully he'll go away.

FG