The Language of Love -

The Five Languages of Love:

How many times do we hear about people not feeling loved by their partner, much to the partner’s surprise and frustration? According to the author of "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” it is often the case that love is there and being expressed, but not in the “language” that the loved one can hear or understands. Each of us has a primary language of love…ways that we express love and things we see as expressions of love. If we can learn and use each other’s love language we can increase the quality in our relationships and touch the hearts of our partners.

The Five Love Languages:

1.) Words of Affirmation: An unsolicited compliment, a kind word, and words of encouragement are very powerful. Mark Twain once said “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

2.) Quality Time: This means togetherness and personal connection, not just being physically nearby. Learn to have a quality conversation, really listening to each other. Take time to have fun together. Do things you each enjoy; explore new activities together.

3.) Receiving Gifts: The message here is that the gift giver was thinking of you and wanted to let you know. Expense is not the main thing – it’s the meaning. A favorite treat picked up on the way home or a card for no reason sends a priceless message.

4.) Acts of Service: Cooking, washing the car, laundry can be acts of love. Challenge the stereotypes. Doing something that is helpful to your loved one will be noticed, if it is their language of love.

5.) Physical Touch: A hug, a kiss, holding hands, and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating love. Research indicates that positive physical contact is important to emotional health; some say you need four hugs a day.

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Truly connecting with a loved one comes down to one simple fact, “you” need to know and speak his or hers love language. Do you know your partner’s primary love language? If you aren’t communicating your love in ways your partner understands they cannot hear you, your relationship may suffer.

Whether you’re a spouse, a parent, or a single person, the five love languages are always the same. To love and be loved…what could be more important?

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