[autumnleaves]

I'm feeling like I will never find "the one". Hell, I never even date. Am I that hideous? Am I that fat? Am I that annoying? All I want is to get to love someone deeply. To get to nourish a relationship, to feel loved, to work hard. Yet, I feel that I cannot be what anyone wants or needs. That no one sees me that way. That no one wants me that way. That no one wants me at all.

[morningstar72]

I felt like that for the longest time. Then rushed into a relationship.. and now I know exactly the kind of guy i do not want. It took me a bad abusive relationship to realize id rather wait for the right guy then settle with the wrong one. don't lose hope.. I'm sure u 'll find 'the one'

[LadyShadow]

I felt like that for a long time. Went from bad relationship to worse relationship when I was in my 20's. Then it took seven years of searching and searching to finally find someone. I am fat right now. So its not a weight thing. I thought no one would love me because I am fat and ugly. I didn't date either, I just chatted online and used online dating sites. But he will come in time. Just when you think you won't find someone you will. Sending you hope love and hugs!

[Scotty204]

I've been there before after my ex cheated on me and broke my heart. Then I ended up in an abusive/controlling relationship with a girl who probably had BPD or anger issues and it was brutal. Just hang in there but for the love of god don't rush into anything as you may regret it like I did...

[Serenityfate]

Hmm never blame your looks or personality because you can't find your soulmate. You are unique and that's what makes you special, believe in yourself. Soulmates are hard to find and mostly happen by chance. To be able to find or attract your soulmate, must first learn what soulmate really means. I found mine by pure accident, and I have to say it won't be a fairy tale. Every relationship will need work. Once you do find them you will know. As mentioned in mythologies and even the concept of eve being made from Adam proves that soulmates do exist. In Greek mythology humans used to have 4 legs,arms, and eyes. Until Zeus feared they would take his place so he split them in two to wonder endlessly around the world in search for each other. The connection, you will know instantly, for it's like you guys already known each other, similar, understandings, and simply just feeling complete. My suggestion is to wait for the right one cause when you do find your one, do whatever it takes not to let go. I wish Ive waited for my situation is really not great. I hope you the best!

I doubt it's anything like that, it just sounds like you have an idealized view of your relationship with someone.

are you always finding yourself in the 'friend zone'? Maybe go out to a nightclub or something and see if you can get hit on. That would raise your confidence and self-esteem regarding your desirability.

[Mike_J]

Well finding someone is difficult, if you find any secrets I would appriciate it if you shared them.

[Lil Ant Lady]

i stayed single for 2 years til this year. i met a guy on NYE and he beat me and psychologically abused me. Well i spoke out and hes going to prison now, hopefully. he is being held on remand right now until court.

it was right time for me, wrong person. for him it was right person, wrong time. he has issues that we were trying to help him address. but hey, these things happen.

i have given up trying now. the thought of being single scares the crap out of me. but the thought of going through all that again is worse. so im gonna be on my guard and not make impulsive decisions like im prone to. if it happens it will take time and ive pre-conditioned myself to think like this.

i have to think about me. when i learn to love myself again after all this maybe the right time will come again. but you have to learn to love yourself before anyone can love you back.

heres hoping for all of us eh,,, but let things happen naturally. dont force the situation xxxxxxxx