Becoming insecure in my relationship

As a bit of background information, I am 22 and have had one serious relationship in the past, and have slept with two people previous to my current relationship.

The man I'm with now is older than me (29). We've been seeing eachother for about seven months now. I'm very much in love with him, and think he is absolutely amazing. I have never felt so strongly about anyone before. I also think he is hot as hell He tells me every day that he loves me and overall we have a great relationship.

I have problems accepting his past. He has had three serious relationships before me, and I know he has slept with way more other woman than I have men, and that he has done/experiences more sexually than I have. And I know or know of many woman that he has slept with. One girl he had sexual relations with a few months before we met is now dating one of his friends, so we hang out all the time. I've even become friends with the girl, but it still bothers me sometimes that they've slept together, and even though I try not to I can't help but think about it.

I can't help sometimes comparing myself to other women he has been with. I often wonder whether I am good enough for him, pretty enough for him or sexy enough for him. I have never had issues like this in past relationships. I have for the most part always been self-confident. Lately I feel very insecure and worry easily about our relationship for no reason.

I think what it comes down to is that I feel like hes the love of my life, and he is definitely the best I have ever had. I get so worried that he wont feel the same and that I'm not enough for him. I don't want to feel like this anymore. I want to be confident again in myself and our relationship, but I'm not sure how to accomplish this. Any advice or guidance would be much appreciated

Well this will be hard, but trust yourself. You will never be able to compete with your imagination, so don't try. Try not to be intimidated by the fact that he is more experienced than you are, it gives you a chance to learn (I know that sounds strange don't mean it to be).

I can't speak for all men, but most men what someone who appreciates them for who they are, the best thing you can do is try to show that appreciation in small ways, making him a sandwich little things like that will go so far in your relationship. Just look at his life, the things he does during the day, try to figure out things you can do to show your appreciation for him. If he has to work late and you know he is going to be hungry bring him something to eat, if he is tense give him a shoulder massage. Now showing appreciation for your partner should work both ways, he should be doing the same things for you.

Being confidant is much easier if you feel you have a bit of control of the situation, and in this case you do, small acts can produce big results. Show your appreciation but don't become a door mat, or allow yourself to be taken for granted, he should show his appreciation at being so lucky to be with someone who would treat him so well.

NinaNina, I am with an older man too, 24 years older than me, (I know, huge age gap but it works). He has been married in the past, for 6 years, to a woman he is still like best friends with. She has a female partner now so there is no competition, but the thought of them being together, and that he used to think they would be together forever bothers me some. I try not to think about the fact that they had sex and that she was his first. There's really no point in thinking about any of it, but it does creep into my mind sometimes. I ask about her a lot, and compare myself to her. Am I better than her, so that he will think I am the one he will be with forever? I wonder how I can be better so that if we get married, our relationship doesn't fall apart like his did with the other woman. I know what it's like to believe I might marry someone, my ex boyfriend, but I've never been so serious with a man before in my life, yet he has been in an even more serious relationship, and that intimidates me. So, you aren't alone, I think it's normal to have some of these thoughts and feelings. But try not to think too much about it, thats all I can say.