[Aprilshowers1979]

My ex husband displayed some disturbing behavior while we were together, extremely controlling, critical of me and others, emotionally abusive, cocky and rude, and he did some weird things when he was upset with me like take apart my exercise machine, let the air out of my bike tires, take lightbulbs out so I was in the dark, he could go from arguing one minute to looking at porn the next. Also took all of our saved money and most of our possessions after the split leaving me broke. My question is do you think it's possible that this behavior might be because of some kind of psychological disorder? I had no self esteem when it was over but I still think about him everyday and it's been 3 years! What is my problem

Hiya

Am so glad you got away!
I have no idea if he had some of psychological disorder, but I could say that anyone being so consistent with their cruel games has to have some kind of disorder.. My friends first husband was like this - she worked shifts and he'd hide alarm clocks around the house at different times to keep waking her up, sold her beloved piano - the only thing she cherished etc.

I think that you've been through a heck of a time, and its not really a shock that you still think about him. There's so much to think about, the cruel, odd behaviour, but also the thought that its the end of hopes and dreams of a lovely life together, something we always hope for when get married. I think its natural to spend some time thinking about him and you, but I also hope you think that you had a lucky escape - he didnt sound very worthy of you, to say the least.

I hope you have a network of friends and family you can talk and lean on..

I wish you all the best x

[Aprilshowers1979]

Thank you! I do have a good network of support. That's probably the only way I could have gotten out because I felt powerless. I wish I understood why and how he behaved the way he did. And I wish I could let it go