[Lexicon78]

My bf is completely against ANYTHING exciting. No drinking, no weed, boring sex, no other interests other than food and sports... Yeah, he's that boring! I can't even have a half-decent conversation with the guy!

All that comes out of his mouth is either complaining or that he "loves his Sweetpea" or some lame thing like that. Some days I want to beat the crap out of him for being so boring, lame, and stupid! But yet other days I appreciate it that he loves me completely.

A few days ago I asked him what things interested him and specifically told him not to say "I don't know". Well, the only two things he said were sports and me. It's like WTF? How boring is that? Exactly what's exciting about sports anyways? I mean just the sound of the announcer's voice literally puts me to sleep! If I'm having a hard time sleeping all I have to do is turn the TV to a darn sports channel! And he will say repeatedly that he doesn't think about much. How can you think about so little? My brain is never quiet. Only a freakin robot has a brain like his!

I'm having a really hard time trying to relate to this guy. If I'm having a problem or have a discussion about anything all he says is "I know" or "we'll be ok". For one thing, he has absolutely no clue what I'm saying half the time and when he says "we'll be ok" I'm usually not even talking about us! I'll ask him if he's listening so he tells me word for word what I just said. It's like the words are there but the meaning is totally gone!

The other day I told him why I didn't want to have kids...that I wouldn't subject them to such an inhumane and cruel world and that they'd suffer more than they'd feel joy. His response..."we'll be ok". It's like, wait just a freakin minute! Did I say anything about me or you? Hell no! We weren't even in the freakin conversation! The welfare and happiness of someone else was! And this is how just about every conversation that we have goes...it's like he hears something completely different than I'm saying!

I dunno. Sometimes I just want out...I want someone who is willing to hear what I'm saying and honestly tell me what they're thinking without denying their humanness.

Don't get me wrong...he really is a great guy...as long as you have no interests in this world, that is.

[Rhapsody]

Hi LEX,

Sorry to hear that matters are not going so well for you and your love.... I had not heard from you in a while on the website so I guess I felt that all was well - or at least going smoothly.

I hear what you are saying and I feel the frustration in your heart and words.......
I honestly think what you two are experiencing here is the great divide between men & women - the lack of understanding each other from "their" side of the fence.... I say this for I was once where you are now and I remainned clueless until I took the time to learn about him as a male and then educated him about me as a female (and) I did all this with out hate, resentment or anger.
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BTW - I can see how and why he saw things in a different way than you did, for when one talks about kids they can't help but put the two together and come up with "US" - the man and woman that created the child out of LOVE for each other.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Lexicon78]

Well, after I posted this I thought well maybe it has something to do with his mental illness...he's DX'd as schizoaffective...well, now I'm thinking that's the major problem here...

[Rhapsody]

YOU have my blessings, for YES - it is hard to be any relationship, let alone to be in one where both parties are trying to work on there own issues and mental illness.

((((((( HUGS ))))))) ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ((((((( HUGS )))))))


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[desirae]

I'm sorry girl, I had to giggle a little on this one because what your boyfriend sounds like is a guy!...lol

I think the majority of the women in this world suffer from the same lack of communication in their relationships, and if they don't then their damned lucky and us typical ones envy them!

What I would (and have done) is demand some excitement, be honest, and tell him your bored out of your freaking skull. Tell him you want to make love outside, go skinny dipping, get fall down drunk, and go to party.

If he rebels against this then pull his butt into the water and strip off his clothes...lol..j/k

Seriously, on a serious note, I think, from what I can see, he seems like a decent guy, just extremely boring. I think what he needs is a good night of crazy excitement and maybe he will get addicted. You never know.

Good luck with that.

[Sabrina]

Lexi, I know you love him, but are you in love with him? I sense more and more that this is not the man that you would like to spend the rest of your life with.

I am sorry you are so frustrated!

[Maven]

Why are you with a guy you consider "boring" and "stupid"? Why is it, sports excites him, and because you deem sports boring, then he's wrong? Only you know what's interesting and fun, and everyone else is wrong? What makes something interesting and fun is a matter of opinion, and not just yours.

No doubt he has faults--I saw and responded to another post in another thread of yours--but you're speaking very abusively about him. He says he "loves his Sweetpea," that's lame? It may not be the response which you're seeking, but at least he's being affectionate. And if he doesn't want to smoke weed, he has at least one brain cell.

And when you mentioned not wanting kids and he responded with, "We'll be ok," it sounds like he meant you'll all be ok as a family; he wasn't speaking of you and him. He wasn't expressing a lack of concern about others.

And most guys are different than most women. When those differences aren't what you want, hang out with your girlfriends.

If the sex is boring, tell him you want to try something new. Try initiating something more exciting for you.

If you have to speak so viciously about him, he's really not the right one for you.