Girlfriend doesnt understand fetish

Hello everyone, I came here because I need advice with this situation.
I have a girlfriend and we have been together for three months, and it has been a very beautiful relationship. I have a love for stuffed animals. They are just so cute, cuddly and soft, and they are stuffed animals. Before going out I told her about that and she didnt have a problem with it.
Here it starts:
I have a sexual fetish with plush too, but I function well. I dont depend on them for sexual stimulation, and I can make love without them around. That doesnt mean I am not aroused by them. I told her about it recently about it, last thursday, and she started crying, and saying that she thought I was obsessed with her, and that I only fantasized about her. I told her that I do most of the times, but that I also want to act upon my fetish, just as I accept hers (she is into BDSM, and even though I dont like pain, I still want to do it for her).
After I told her that, she said that she was going to supress her fetish if it did hurt me, because she "doesnt need it, and that I dont need mine either". She said that I dont need to masturbate to stuffed animals because I have her, and I answered to her that just because you dont need something doesnt mean that you shouldnt do it, and she started saying that I was too dependant, and reliant on artificial things, and that it hurt her feelings because I was masturbating to something that isnt she.
She does this on the premise that supposedly I developed the fetish for plush because "I didnt have a sex partner before and that I was doing it to compensate, and that now that I am with her, there is no reason it should be there". First of all, I didnt develop it because loneliness, but she kept insisting on that, and that only desperate people do that.
I know I am tiring you guys out.. but it continues. I told her to see it as if it were dildos, and she said it wasnt the same, because "they are plushies".
I just dont know what to do... or who is wrong or right...
I want to make her feel more open about it, and I even told her that she was being very stubborn, and she just said: "pretty much.."
I love my girlfriend, and I am willing to supress my fetish if it really hurts her, but at least I want to try to open her mind to it.
I also have found support from friends, and family members, and I also want my girlfriend to support me...

I wouldn't say that either of you is "wrong". You both have different ideals in what you do/don't like.

Your gf sounds as though she feels emotionally threatened by your fetish. You both say that you're willing to gives up your sexual fetishes for one another, but that really could lead to resentment etween the two of you quickly. Perhaps a better way around giving in to one another's discomfort would be to talk it out openly. Why does she feel so threatened? Would she be more comfortable if you preferred dirty movies or magazines?? Or, does she want to be your one and only sexual fetish?

On your side...when did this fetish begin? Any idea/s how it began? What if your gf were to dress up like a stuffed animal? Would that be the ultimate arousal for you, or completely separate?

Don't feel as though you have to answer all of these Q's to me. They're just things for you to think about & try if applicable. I hope that it helps you! Maybe both of you could limit your fetishes a bit ~ and that would keep both of you happy and satisfied. Take care!

She by the sounds of it feels threatened... and as silly as it may sound, a little jealous of plushies? I think a little forgiveness is needed, esp as you both have your own thing. By your own words, yours is a fetish, not taking over your life, and I hope she realises that that by itself, is just fine. Good luck and kudos to you to keep trying to talk about it. x

I agree with the above statements. I know when my bf ever brings something up that he feels emotionally attached to, I feel a bit threatened at the simple fact he is putting so much focus, time and energy into something else. That said, it should never stop someone from trying to be accepting. Let her know that this is who you are, and see if you can both come to a compromise.

My fetish for plushies arised together with masturbation to imaginary friends when i was a 12 year old. i had this imaginary friend, and i remember watching it in a cartoon about animals. for some reason i thought the way it looked was sexy, and started imagining sexual fantasies with it, and then i moved to plushies because i can touch them. i would never do it with a real animal... i can get infected, go to jail, and i just dont find them attractive sexually at all.
I got my first girlfriend at 14 years of age, and the fetish just stayed there, mostly because i dont have any desire to get rid of it.
i feel like what people say about how only desperate lonely people would do that
is only a myth. i have already have kindof made love with my girlfriend (sexual make out) and the fetish is still there. like i said, i dont require it for arousal, i get aroused with my girlfriend by herself. but i also feel aroused with plushies.
this leads to your question about "what would my ultimate turm on would be" and that is, my girlfriend. i would feel aroused if she dressed up as a plushie though, but no more than she by herself. i think this will clarify more things... thanks

Is there ways she could be involved with your fetish?

yes. and so far i have good news. she accepted the fetish. ironically, she didnt like the idea of using a complete stuffed animal custome, but accepted using animal ears and tail and paw gloves. she also accepted me masturbating to the stuffed animals. i made the porn analogy and she understood it bettter now.

Hey there.

I know've a few people who're into the same things you are, and I'm good friends with people who identify themselves as furries. So I understand where you're coming from.

I do think Shezbut is right...suppressing both your fetishes is a quick route to resentment. Rather, I agree with what's been said in finding why this bothers her so much...I'd understand so much better if this were a matter of you looking at porn or something, but these are inanimate objects. It's exactly analogous to if she had a certain toy she liked or something like that...I don't understand the problem, honestly.

That being said, understanding what her grievance is with this can go a very long way. I know you mentioned that you pleasure yourself to them...do you think it's possible that she thinks that you think the plushies are more attractive than her? She needs to understand, if that is indeed what she thinks, that it couldn't be further from the truth. That's like you being you being jealous that she's using a toy that happens to be larger than you. Surely she could see the analogy? And you mentioned her dressed up as a plushie could be a turn on...do you think you two could work something out (honestly, you could incorporate both of your fetishes, which might help ease her into it)? The key, I think, is for her to understand that A) Her and the plushies aren't mutually exclusive B) That this isn't a fetish at all unlike BDSM and C) That you love HER.

I wish you both the best, and I hope you can work something out.

My best,
Harley

Actually, I tried making the porn analogy to her, because strangely, she lets me watch porn, and well, it worked! She is now ok with me using soft toys for masturbation.
I am really thankful with everyone for their understanding.