[Zen888]

Hello Everyone

I don't like to label myself but I guess I could say that I am a passive aggressive type B personality.

I am very timid when it comes to confronting ppl in authority over me, like in a work situation. I need to learn how to confront ppl at work in an appropriate manner without losing my temper or not getting myself "heard". I dont yell...I am just very direct in an arguementative sorta way.

Suggestions?

Dubz

[Lexicon78]

I dunno...I just wanted you to know that you're not alone and that I'm the same way you are.

[wounded1]

I don't know if this will help, but being an extremely direct person myself, I try to put myself in the other persons shoes and try to say what I need to say in the manner I imagine they would say it to me.

And when all else fails, I write it down. If you can't resolve a situation with a person face to face for confrontation fears, or just not being able to get through to the other person, I find it's a lot easier for people to understand what I am trying to say if they have it in black and white. Also, this gives me a chance to "edit" exactly what I do say. (I can have a wicked acid tongue at times!).

Be confindent that your opinions and feelings MATTER!

wounded1

[downsolong]

Hi dublin,

I wish I knew how to get practice with this sort of thing online (It's vertualy forbidden here) but I was pointed to an interesting web site on the subject at
http://www.crnhq.org/ that you might find helpful.

I've read the stuff and it sounds pretty good although on many controversial issues I don't necessarily want to continue a relationship with a person as see that the truth in the matter, a wise out come, and justice prevail. LOL I even have conflicts with conflit resolution 'experts' That requires good substantiated facts as opposed to beliefs which can't be verified. It appears to me that the site falls a little short in that area but looks to have great ideas none the less. Perhaps supplemented with ideas discussed at this site: http://www.criticalthinking.org/forum/index.php good skills could be developed with study and practice.
I sure would like a place to practice where the stakes weren't as high as in 3d, and will continue to seek same.
This is so key to a theropist's job success that I'm shocked that so many of them are so ignorant and bad at it and general negociating skills training. Each time a pacient quits in frustration, conflicts got in the way/negociations have broken down. This has been a big bugaboo in my life and even while seeking help, it frustrates the heck out of me.

I wish you well in your current conflict resolution out comes.
~Down