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Nov 25, 2012, 09:56 PM
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I went on a coffee date with a very nice East Indian man. I liked him plenty but not in "that way". I can see myself meeting again, no problem, for a good conversation or even to do things together, e.g. play badminton (and he is conveniently my height) but I do not see myself dating him even though his touch felt nice and warm. He is not a liar - he is who he presents himself to be (same profession so it is easy to verify), his English is perfect, his choice of words is excellent, his taste is good (we browsed antique and arts stores together after coffee), there was just no chemistry.
Do I email a thank you note? What is the polite and appropriate thing to do? He said that he wanted to see me again. I do not want to offend him. |
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Nov 25, 2012, 11:31 PM
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HB, I am so glad you had a good time on your date. It sounds as if it went well
 I have never considered it bad manners in any situation to send a thank you note, but when it comes to dating, I think it is a little tricky. Clearly, you had a nice time and enjoy his company enough to consider getting together again as friends, but you aren't interested in him romantically. I would leave it up to him to make the next move...you don't want to give mixed signals. I think it is best to let the guy make the next move, whatever your intentions. 
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Nov 25, 2012, 11:43 PM
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I was wondering how your date was! I agree and think you should wait for him to contact you, especially since there was no spark. During one of my separations from my husband I met a man from POF (was so nervous I ran a red light and drove on the wrong side of the road!) anyway there was no spark. He texted me after the meeting and I explained how much I wanted there to be a spark but there wasn't and good luck in his search. He said thank you and that was about it.
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Nov 26, 2012, 06:15 PM
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He sent a chat saying he wants to see me again. As you say, no spark, but he is a lovely man.
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Nov 26, 2012, 06:49 PM
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No thank you note!! It wasn't a job interview, it was a date. If there are no bells then you would just be leading him on. That would not be good. You can either ignore him as he will difinetely get the message, or the next time he calls just tell him he is a nice person for a friend but you do not want to date him...or something like that. Its always terribly difficult, but the best thing is honesty.
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Nov 26, 2012, 07:42 PM
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OK, thanks, I will tell him that.
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Nov 26, 2012, 07:45 PM
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I feel sorry for him, but what can I do, I cannot force myself!!
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