Changing Inner Belief System (about men)

Ok.... this is a list that I came across from a relationship help site that I use to post on - lets start here and then see where it takes my deeper inner (true) feelings (about men).

The LIE List – (what women think / feel about men)

1.) Men only want her for her body

2.) Men will do any thing for sex, to have it

3.) She is only as good as she looks

4.) He loves sex more than he loves her

5.) All men will cheat

6.) Men cannot be trusted

7.) She should never work outside the house

8.) If a man gives a compliment he wants some thing

9.) Most men do not think about her during the day

10.) She is only good for having babies

11.) It is all in the body…

12.) Her worth fades with her looks and age

13.) Men cannot help but to look – so live with it

14.) Some thing is wrong with her if she desires sex

15.) Give good loving and all will be well

16.) Men cannot raise – take care of children

17.) Men are DOGS!

18.) Men do not know how to love, with the heart

19.) Most marriages are doomed to fail

20.) If it hurts you – leave it

21.) Men enjoy being with his friends more than he needs you

Just a few things to get the ball a rolling… why do we believe these things and how did they come about? Our parents – friends – television – movies – society – wounds – assumptions – real life… you tell me.



LoVe,
Rhapsody –

omg - those really are lies, Rhapsody! Do you believe all of them? I'm sad about this -- how can we help you?

I don't know what kind of groups or clubs you are affiliated with, but perhaps you would benefit from having a wider circle of male friends. Most of the guys I know are people in our bike riding circle, and they are all terrific, terrific people. Maybe some kind of interest-based club so that you meet more genuine men? Or take some classes?

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omg - those really are lies, Rhapsody! Do you believe all of them? I'm sad about this -- how can we help you?

I don't know what kind of groups or clubs you are affiliated with,

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No No - I do not believe all of them and the people that are at the site does not to either.... the list is called a LIE LIST - hence, they are lies that we (the female) have been left to believe in at times due to society, movies and sexually abusive experience by a man.

BTW............. the LIST was made to help US change our negative belief sysytem, not keep it.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

I am working on a list of the ones I do believe or put stock in due to my past (and) then you all can help see why they might be wrong...... THX.

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Rhapsody said:
I am working on a list of the ones I do believe or put stock in due to my past (and) then you all can help see why they might be wrong...... THX.

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~ ~ ~ Why I personally believe these statement: ~ ~ ~


1.) Men only want her for her body:
.................... they often act as though a sexy females is what it is all about

2.) Men will do any thing for sex, to have it:
...................... men are often the sexual abuser in this world - they take what was not given to them.

3.) She is only as good as she looks:
..................... Women are often replaced for younger / sexier females

4.) He loves sex more than he loves her:
..................... She is often only touched, kissed and given attention to when he is in the mood for SEX

5.) All men will cheat:
...................... (not for sure on this one)- for women cheat just as much these days.... but all in all I would have to say that I know very few men that have not cheated.

6.) Men cannot be trusted:
...................... Every MALE in my life had let me down, badly hurt me - even my husband.

11.) It is all in the body:
..................... Men often do not control their eyes, even when in love, a committed relationship / marriage.... they often love their habit of lusting.

12.) Her worth fades with her looks and age:
................... The old car (hag) is often turned in for a newer model – need I say more?

17.) Men are DOGS!
…………………… Well, just look around YOU - this world is controlled by sex and the men just eat it up - married and single ones.

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LoVe,
Rhapsody -

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> > > waiting for HEALING (and wanting it).

I understood that it was a 'lie list' - sorry if my reply didn't come out clearly. I think that the list is a good idea, but would be more helpful if rephrased so that each 'lie' was rewritten to be a 'truth'. Seeing the 'lies' listed like that is rather shocking, and even though it says 'lies' at the top, having a man see a list like that is likely to put him on the defensive. To change a negative belief system, I think it would be better to read and re-read the 'truths' rather than the 'lies'.

What do you think?

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To change a negative belief system, I think it would be better to read and re-read the 'truths' rather than the 'lies'.

What do you think?

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Yes that would help..... along with working on ones own inner belief system - healing the wounds and retraining the negative thoughts with a positive..... and having people in your life that can show by example, living it for real with in life.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -