What should I do ?

Have you considered this man may be already married to someone else? If you want to get married, ditch this guy and be careful the next time you start to date someone. If you want to marry, don't go more than a year in a relationship without a clear indication that you're going to marry; and make sure you know his friends, family, etc and that they know about you. If there is no indication the man is honest and serious, move on to someone else.

I.C.K. Thank you. But I know he is definately not married to anyone else.
Whatever this guy is, he's not a liar or con man.

You know, I could say the same thing about my stbxh......but you know what?????? When he doesn't want you to know something he just doesn't say anything & believes that with holding information is NOT LYING......I beg to differ.

The thing is that you really don't know this guy because you are NOT involved in his life.....there is so much that's possible he's hiding from you because YOU just aren't there to really KNOW what he's doing when he's not around you.

Hiya Lady,

I feel really sorry for you... I know you state you haven't seen him for a Year... You state you haven't really got out of bed in a year... Who does shopping ? how you able to eat ? who provides your food? I guess you much be finacially secure and able to pay your monthly bills.

Now onto this guy you have been with for 10 years... I could not allow anyone I loved to just give up and stay in bed and to not be able to see them for a year.. I may have missed something about all this.. If so I am sorry.

When I was single and dating ... I was not in a big hurry to introduce them to my daughter She was 7-8 years at the time. When I met someone that I could see it lasting .. then he met my daughter and my family and friends..

You deserve someone that will help you emotionally and be there for you .. whether its good times or bad.

Please seek treatment for your depression..

Don't call me that nasty acronym.

that is a nasty acronym isn't it.....lol.....didn't even think about it until you pointed it out.........this is a world of acronyns

You have to get out of bed and get treatment for depression. I think you should focus on it, and r/s problems are secondary. You need to get from existing to living. You know, showers, exercise, being outside - the basics.