Feelings Brought on by a Movie -

HEY LADIES!.... Do any of you ever watch a move / love story and then end up feeling slightly empty inside when it is over for you now long for that same type of love?

I just watched “Shall We Dance” and “The Notebook” - both have left me wanting.... deep from with in.


LoVe,
Rhapsody -


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I know exactly what you mean! I can't watch movies like that, anymore. I broke up with my first love last year. We only went out for five months, but still, its been hard. Movies like that make it worse! Dysthymia and empty-feeling movies do NOT mix!!

Do YOU think it is because WE have been with out it in our real life? - that maybe we are still searching.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Rhap,

Sorry you are feeling a bit empty inside.

Please think about how it's Hollywood... it is scripted and not usually near "real" life. They don't show the ups and downs and pains and lows as much as most experience in real life--- probably because it would be too much like our life! ....... and mostly when we go to a movie we go to... dream, escape and/or be entertained.

Seeing what fictious people have in a movie and then looking at our own lives and feeling less can be dangerous. Most Love/relationships isn't the way they show on the screen-- IMO. Perhaps looking at the good things about your life and relationship could help you to feel better? Maybe I'm being too simplistic.... I just think that when we start comparing ourselves to others that's when we can bring ourselves down.

Thinking of you---

(hope I haven't offended..... only mean to be supportive)

Hi Rhapsody,

I think I know what you mean although I haven't seen these two movies. I think this is why my favorite movies are romantic comedies like "Moonstruck" and "You've Got Mail." Although they too are fantastic craftings of someone's imagination like every other movie, the plots involve a very bumpy road before the couples get together. I like to rewatch them a lot and feel satisfied that it will be "bumpy ever after." Like my life!

Thanks for the insight Rhapsody.

Meta

I think when we see movies like that it does make us want that kind of love! We as women long for it! but I have come to realize is happens but it doesn't stay that way for long! during times that I am feeling down about it I will not even watch a love story

Thanks for understanding..... I am feeling better this morning - here is hoping for a WONDERFUL tomorrow.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

Glad U R feeling better Rhap...when I first read your post it thru me back to when I was a child watching one of the Disney Films...I think it was Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs...where she sings "Some day my prince will come"...smile..I enjoy romantic movies too..but then its back to the real world...

Actually, I kind of DO feel that way about my husband. I guess that's what makes it worth sticking through the current bout of depression/anxiety Hell. I mean, we have the normal humdrum everyday kind of love and life together too, but there are many times when we still are giddy with the puppy love we had when we first met 6 years ago.

I refuse to watch anything that is a tear-jerker.

But of course, Alien Resurrection made me cry. Figures.

We dream of LOVE as it is supposed to be..... no purposely hurtful pain from another, just life love and bumps going on as one is CHERISHED in JOY and not destroyed.

I just stumbbled across this and this made think a little. My wife does watch these sort of sappy movies and I get stuck with the 20 Questions afterwards. Of course, I try not to watch these movies, because I have no particular interest . But, when I see my wife getting involved I get a bit curious and I watch a little bit. Sometimes, I hate to say it, but I get a little teary eyed when I watch these sort of things. I just don't know why, but it happens.

Thanks Logan.... it is obvious that both men and women want to be (and to feel) loved by their significant other and these types of movies bring that out in us all.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

............................. BTW - my husband gets teary eyed during these movies as well.

All movies put some sort of aafect on me for some reason. I hate love movies.....despise them because there fabricated and cheesy, they portray love as something it's actually not....imo. But when I watch a movie like "Returning to Paradise"...very good movie. I feel empty and feel as though I do not accomplish alot in life.

I also avoid the tear-jerker love story movies. Hey...married unhappily for 20+ years, then disastrous dating experiences for 8 years, I am working on finding contentment alone. I'm not bitter at all, but this kind of Hollywood romance has evaded me, and I wonder if it's real.
Peaceful thoughts,
Seeker