husband brought up self injury

We were driving in the car heading out on a grand adventure, a weekend to ourselves with no kids. I don't even remember how the conversation lead to it but I said I still have a mark right above my knee where I jammed myself with a pencil and the lead stuck in. He said quietly "You did it on purpose." I said "Yeah". That was it, we went on to other topics and had a great weekend. But that moment was special to me because that was the first time he has ever voiced his awareness of my self injury. First time he allowed himself to contemplate it and to confirm that his thoughts were correct. It made me feel warm, like I do have a partner who wants to try to understand so he can help me get past this.
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos

Hey Zen,
that's great for both of you. My girlfriend is 'olic, alcoholic, dope-olic, smoke-olic, foodolic, coffee-olic, coke-olic & chuck in OCD etc. She hides most of it from hubby but exposed her ciggies recently and he's had a hard time adjusting given she smoked right through their precious pregnancy (IVF). It is better for both of them to bring it out. She came out about bulemia a year or two ago and that has really helped her get a handle. She's just recently started hitting the turps pretty bad though and is back into hiding how much she's drinking. I think partners fear the worst and hope the best. Ignorance is a way of avoiding the reality which is pretty confronting. What we don't see we don't have to face.

It is great that you have awareness happening between you both it will help you feel less isolated and fearful.

Regards Frances.

That is what I am hoping for. Since I got into therapy my T has been telling me to talk to my husband. He has been harping on it for 3 years. In the beginning it was hard because every time I tried I felt like I was getting slapped in the face because hubby didn't know how to respond. But thanks to my T's persistance I have continued trying and hubby has been learning and things are starting to work and I don't feel so alone anymore.
Carrie

<font color=blue>The important thing is this: to be able at any momeent to sacrifice what we are for what we could become.--Charles Du Bos