[Karlam1991]

I broke up with my boyfriend
Because our long distance relationship
Will not work.. But we're away because he wants
To so I told him if that's your decision
Than we will have to stay as friends..

He agreed.. But now he won't talk to me he ignores me
As if I did something wrong breaking up with him.
It hurts me so much I still love him I need him to speak to me
I feel miserable..
He used to called me every night and I know he won't call so I get so depressed
Idk why I'm alive he doesn't care if I'm sad..
So around 8pm I take sleeping pills.
I don't understand why is he mad/sad
We can be together if he really wanted to..
I want to quit my job so I can stay home and sleep/cry
I miss him..

This is important: If you've taken too many sleeping pills, go to the hospital now.

NOBODY IS WORTH KILLING YOURSELF FOR. Do you hear me? Sorry to be so rude to you, but I need you to hear me. You may feel like it's the end of the world, but its not. You're hurting, everyone hurts at the end of a relationship. It's natural, we all go through it. The answer is not to try and damage yourself. How will you ever love again if you're gone?

And you boyfriend is probably ignoring you because he is hurting too. You broke it up, and he probably just needs some time to heal. Let him heal. He will probably be your friend in a while, when things don't hurt so much. Use this time yourself to heal Try to stop fixating on the pain, go out, do nice things, see good friends and lean on them. Have a nice soak in the bath, do some shopping & treat yourself. Things will get better, you know, they pretty much always do.

[Karlam1991]

I'm not trying to kill myself I just don't want to think anymore.
And I'm ok I didn't take that many.

And I'm alone I don't have any good friends
Everyone drinks and I don't want to get drunk.
I'm trying hard not to!

Ok, and big sigh of relief! Am glad you didn't and sorry for me being rude. I was worried!!

Being alone is hard. Is there anything else that you like to do, that makes you smile, even a little bit? Or something to keep you busy for a couple of hours a day? I find that whenever I've split up, I need to go through the sadness, but also offset that with a little bit of time away from it, otherwise the sadness takes over, if you know what I mean. And good call over the drink. Drink is fine, socially etc, but drinking too much to drown sorrows isn't the best, unless you know that it will just be a one-off and not depend on it.

Hugs to you (and am still so relieved that I got the wrong end of the stick, embarrassed but relieved!)

[maggy.ng]

We all need to go through the hard time.

I totally agree with Riotgrrrl. I am trying to do the nice things you said and I think so, keep myself busy to fill up the loneliness. But sometimes, I am sentimental, I think over about him. I am worrying all the times. My head says "Don't destroy yourself anymore", but why my heart reserves a bare big room for him.

I am experiencing the hard time, I know your feelings. I cry all the time when I'm alone and before sleeping. But please don't kill yourself with any drugs and don't use them too much till abuse them. Please think that more than one person is always by your side.

We are sad, depressed, seem not to stand up. One day, everything will spin its orbit. At least, not only you are bearing this pain, but also me.

I wish you could be happy. Hugs for you.

[astenon]

I've been on this site only a week now and have been absolutely amazed how supportive everyone is on here. I would like to share something I've been thinking about doing.

In a couple of months, I'm going to have to make some changes to my life. Changes which seem like nothing to most people, but which are going to terrify me. I've been wondering how I am going to do them. This is what I've come up with:

At times of great stress, when the going get's tough and when there is a step I need to take, I'm going to imagine everyone on these boards holding my hand, standing beside me and urging me to achieve what I want to achieve.

I know this sounds like hippyfied nonsense and I'm the first to be cynical about it, but I'm hoping this approach will help me.

Karlam and everyone else who reads this, maybe the same approach could help you? When you're feeling down, imagine everyone here giving you a big hug, standing by you and willing you to be strong.

[avlady]

that's what we're all here for to support and listen!

[joe456]

Originally Posted by Karlam1991

I broke up with my boyfriend
Because our long distance relationship
Will not work.. But we're away because he wants
To so I told him if that's your decision
Than we will have to stay as friends..

He agreed.. But now he won't talk to me he ignores me
As if I did something wrong breaking up with him.
It hurts me so much I still love him I need him to speak to me
I feel miserable..
He used to called me every night and I know he won't call so I get so depressed
Idk why I'm alive he doesn't care if I'm sad..
So around 8pm I take sleeping pills.
I don't understand why is he mad/sad
We can be together if he really wanted to..
I want to quit my job so I can stay home and sleep/cry
I miss him..

forget him. U do not need that type of aggrevation in life. There is always someone out there better for you. Smile and keep ur chin up.

[hamster-bamster]

Quitting your job now would be the worst possible decision.