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Jan 31, 2004, 02:24 PM
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I approached a female (around 25 years old) a couple of times at my fitness club. I was interested in striking up a conversation with her, but on both occasions I got a cool reception sort of like forget it pal, so I discontinued approaching her and put her out of my mind.
Fast forward about 6 months, I happened to notice her working out in the aerobics room the other day and made eye contact with her I noticed she had a look that seem to say I want you but with a look of urgency to it. I sort of did a double take because it was out of the blue and I was on the stairway going down to the pool area with people right behind me so I just kept on going I must just be imagining things so I sort of dropped the incident from my thoughts and continued with my normal routine. The next day I saw her once again in the aerobics room and she caught my eyes and sort of held them looking for some kind of a sign I guess? The thing is she is an attractive lady but I really don't know anything about her and she did clearly put me off on a couple of prior occasions so I'm hard pressed to figure out what if anything I should do. Don't get mad at me for saying this but if I had been driving a new Ferrari or recently had won the lotto or perhaps appeared in a blockbuster movie I could understand her purely self interest. But in my case nothing I'm aware has changed in the least. My strongest choice of actions is to blow her off she's probably just a flake. Do you think that is most likely the case? If your answer is maybe she was involved with someone and now she's not, then your basically saying stay clear of her. Because it’s never wise to start up a relationship with someone on the rebound. |
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Jan 31, 2004, 03:52 PM
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Hmmm doesn't sound too scarey to me... heheheh she might be quite normal, having a guy chase her till she catches him!
...I can misspeak like the best of us
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Jan 31, 2004, 04:06 PM
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Doug,
Sky might be right, but I also think you might be reading waaaaaaaaaay too much into this "look". If she didn't say anything to you or you to her that indicates interest on either side, I would stay away from the eyeball cues. These days it can be very dangerous to assume about anyone's sexual intentions. That said, don't necessarily blow her off, either. Try talking to her again. She may not have been in a relationship at all, but may have had something on her mind at the time (I know I go to the gym to blow off steam from work - the LAST time I ever want somebody to approach me) or may have been enjoying the single life and not looking for anything at the moment. Things change. I'd say don't assume from the looks, try chatting her up again maybe as you leave the club and if she ignores you again, disregard any looks from her sexual or otherwise. some of it's magic some of it's tragic but i had a good life all the way...... ~jimmy buffett
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Jan 31, 2004, 09:27 PM
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Thanks, for the idea next time I see her I walk up and say hi, if at that point she pulls out the dreaded 44 Magnum and blows me off I'll just recognize her facial expression are in no way a mirror of her actual emotional feelings. Your not the 1st person to tell me I over analyze everything being a computer geek its probably true ;--}
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Jan 31, 2004, 10:09 PM
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Yay computer geeks - that's what I suspected, actually. You sound like my friends (every last one a computer geek
 ). And yes, the .44 Magnum is a VERY good sign that further contact would be unwelcome  .some of it's magic some of it's tragic but i had a good life all the way...... ~jimmy buffett
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Feb 01, 2004, 10:32 AM
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if you are intrested do as you said .go up and say hi.
Take it from a womans point of view.. we still liked to be pursued, but in a more clam manner and we do not want to feel smotherd into dating someone.. Way too many bad images come to mind when you talk about her pulling that .44 if she wanted to talk to you she would come up to you. but then again you could also be correct on the fact she may have been with someone before and is not know.. but then again she could be trying to play you.. so so many unvariables to consider.. (i am a computer geek too) so take your chances and good luck in what ever happens.. Makes me want to check back and see what happend <font color=purple>The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost. - G.K. Chesterton <font color=purple>
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