should i leave my relationship?

Before me and my boyfriend got together, we were best friends for five years. As of today, we have been together for almost two years. During our rship we have had our ups and downs. At one point, I felt as if he just didn't love me for me anymore. Just a week ago, I told him that I felt that we should be apart. I had a lot of stuff going on in my life that I really felt that needed some sort of correcting. To me, he has become very clingy and I really need my space. I love him, but I just don't know if our relationship is going to progress. He says that he wants to marry me. I don't think that he really is sure about that. I feel, however; how can one be so sure when we aren't really connecting? The sex is not that great and I have restrained myself from him sexually. We still turn each other on it's just that I don't feel the need for sex anymore with him. When I am out by myself on the other hand I see people that I may feel that I would want to start a new relationship. I am not really feeling this one anymore and just think that I could do a lot better. I need more excitement in my life and don't want to be at a plateau with no progression. I want to feel appreciated and loved but more so that my partner knows what he wants and for the right reasons. That day that I broke up with him I felt as if I was making the right choice, but when he walked out of the door my heart ached so bad like it never has before. We both hugged each other and cried before he left and I didn't want to let him go. I know that he loves and cares about me and I do too. Its just that I feel like I'm stuck. What should I do?

Hi ~ If you don't feel this is going anywhere, then why stay in the relationship? You say when you go out, you see others you'll like to be in a relationship with -- that's not fair to this guy. So there's no point in staying in a relationship in which you don't feel fulfilled.

Naturally you're going to feel badly when you break up because you've shared time together, but that will soon stop hurting. Just give yourself some time and don't jump into another relationship for awhile.

I think it's a good idea to move on. Find someone who you think is THE one. This guy obviously isn't. I wish you the very best. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

I really do believe that something isn't right. I don't think that he is cheating on me but I have always wondered why is it that he brings up marriage at such a bad time. He brought it to my attention last night over the phone and asked if he was putting too much stress on me. I told him the reason that I feel that I wasn't ready is because there are a lot of things that both me and him still have to go through. I think that I still need to find that certainty within him and me that neither of us will stray away from the relationship again.

He has changed a little but it does not mean that there is a guarantee that things will work. About five months ago he brought up marriage around my birthday. Come to find out that he only did it because one of our "couple" friends got engaged a couple of weeks before. I brought the issue to him and told him that I felt that it wasn't right and that I was hurt deeply.

At that time, I was so excited about it and we talked about rings and all. He told me to go and get my ring size checked. I even saw him come up to my job and look at the engagement rings while I was on my shift. I was really hurt because I began working 12 hour shifts so that we can move in together and start a new life. Eventually, I started to feel as though all of my hard work didn't mean anything. He started to get upset because I wanted to work and had finally found that ambition within me. So as of today, we are together but I think that he is beginning to use the word "marriage" as a defense mechanism so that I can stick around. I cannot tell if he is serious or not.