I feel crazy and angry in my passive aggressive relations

Thank you everyone for your support with my posts. I am totally depressed because I feel like the state of my relationship is completely my fault. I do get very angry in the relationship, but I also believe my boyfriend is completely passive-aggressive. I worry that I am a batterer in this relationship because I have physically fought with him. I am losing this mind in this relationship, but I am worried that the problem is me.

When I ask him if he wants to go to counseling, he says: um..and that is the end of it. I wait for an answer, and there is no answer from him. It happens all the time.

When I state my needs, he takes it personal. I consider myself a nice person in general, but in this relationship, I feel constantly like a *****.

Has anyone ever dealt with passive-aggressive behavior from their partners? How did you manage?

We have been together for 13 years, and lived together for 10. He also gave me a concussion recently in a fight. I am so fed up, and am seriously planning on going to a shelter.

This relationship isn't going anywhere and someone is going to get hurt WORSE than your concussion, which is bad enough! You should have left THEN. Anytime there is violence in a relationship, THAT should be the end of it.

You need to leave, and leave now. If this is the first time you've gotten violent, obviously this relationship is toxic for you. You need to get out before either he or you are seriously hurt. It's only going to get worse. Please see if you can stay with friends or relatives, and if you can't then find a shelter where you can stay until you get on your feet.

I wish you the very best. God bless you my friend -- and PLEASE don't go back to this man. So many women do in cases like this. It will only end in disaster. Hugs, Lee

I have had a passive aggressive relationship that was trauma on me and it was the hardest thing to walk away from it but in the end I am SOOOOO MUCH HAPPIER!I CAN DO BAD ON MY OWN(if wanted).You need to go to sister site Neurotalk go to forum Traumatic Brain Injury(concussion).Then you need to focus on YOU YOU YOU and getting to a neurologist and psychiatrist because concussion. If you would like to message me I can tell you more about background.