I saw this girl at Walmart! >:D

I've spent 23 (almost 24) years a single man, I've never dated before. I've managed to make do alone, but my heart has always needed a woman in it. It's my #1 wish. I've always had this idea that a relationship might be the one and only thing to shatter my mental problems, or at least take my guard down. My mom has a tendency to disagree with this idea, and she's probably right. I don't really know because I've never had anything like it.

A couple weeks ago I was traumatized by something and have been trying to turn my life around ever since, but it's taking some baby steps. I'm finally going to church again, trying to get my heart right with God, and I'm actually talking with some people... "some" as in like, 1 or 2, lol! I'm a total noob.

Well yesterday after church me and my dad had went to Walmart. I needed some earplugs to drain out some of the noise that has been bugging me lately. We couldn't find them, so we asked an elderly employee who led us to the Sports & Outdoors aisle. As I walked down the aisle in search of the mysterious plugs, without even looking, a crouched female employee had asked me if I was "looking for something?", and very surprised I responded with the usual, "nah, I'm fine" and walked away.

I don't know what to make of this, but the moment sure felt interesting, and she was really pretty. Not the usual gorgeous I'm used to seeing online, but she really quite a cutie. I found the earplugs and walked away with my dad to the checkout lanes, but told him that I wanted "to go look for something". I managed to find my way back to the area, where I (discreetly) found her still crouched over, doing something to the shelves.

I hid in an aisle diagonal from hers, and walked about 15 times back and forth deciding what to do, but I just couldn't gather the words I wanted to say. I was starting to develop a slight erection (lmao), but I was also starting to feel very anxious, and eventually bailed.

I'm unemployed, have a few screws loose, and am really shy. How in the world could I justify my interest in her when I am plagued by these problems? I want to go back next week and see if I can find her, but I don't know if I will be able to. I don't even know if I should. What do you good people make of this?

Go for it. Who knows what will happen. Then you will have an interesting story to tell the grandkids =) Good luck! <3

I don't see why you wouldn't have any attraction to a girl you see. Despite your issues, you are a normal male otherwise! I can't say having a girlriend will solve all your problems (who knows), but I agree that it would be fine for you to check her out to see if she is in a serious relationship, and if not, then if you could get together for lunch or a visit. And then go from there. I am glad you are finding someone you are interested in!

One of the most romantic moments I had was watching a chap walking past the window of a shop I worked in for about an hour before he got the nerve to come in with a bunch of flowers and asking me on a date. I said yes and we dated for a while. He was a lovely man :-)

So go for it! I hope you do ask her out, nothing ventured, nothing gained as they say!

haha, that's for sure XD

How do I "see" if she's in a serious relationship? I may have to quickly change positions depending on the answer (if I can get an answer).

I kinda wanna go up to her and ask that "I'm looking for something", and hopefully ask for her name. After that, well.. I haven't really thought of anything yet.

Aww.. that's really sweet, thanks for telling that little story. I can almost relate to that 'chap'. Did he know anything about your dating status before he brought you those flowers? It really takes some courage to do that

Well, I didn't mean "see" literally. You will have to ask her about her status. Maybe something like: "I don't know if you are involved with anybody else, but if you aren't, then I'd like to take you out for lunch. Are you free for lunch anytime?" .....And if she says she's not involved and is interested, then you can suggest a time, "How about on your next day off? Or How about Wednesday?" etc.

Of course, you can ask her out for dinner and/or a movie or whatever. That's a really more official date.

I agree with some of what's been said here. I was really scared before I met my current partner because I'd been single and celibate for four years and received most of my diagnoses in that time and felt I'd scare anyone away with it. But I went after my partner and things turned out well.

It doesn't hurt to ask.