[bos314489]

I have recently connected with my first love from 20 years ago. Once again all the feelings came back and I am head over heels in love with him again. To make a long story short, he is not really in a place in his life where he can get serious with someone again and I am at that place after being divorced for over 2 years. My question is how do I get him off my mind? I don't want to be consumed with thinking about him and get carried away with my feelings. It just feels so good to be with him again. It feels very natural and right. I stay busy all day and no matter what I do I can't stop thinking about him because I am crazy in love. Help!

[hamster-bamster]

I was about to retrieve your old post to see how you were doing...

Sorry to hear about it. Other than keep thinking the thoughts until they go away, no advice. And, keep staying busy. You are doing all the right things.

[Evil Schnoodle]

I can really empathize with you about this. I am a very nostalgic person. People, places, and songs from the past effect me strongly. There are still things I love about several people I have been with. I have been married a few times...and while they did not work out , I learned so much about myself and grew in many ways. There are still things I love about my first wife, and remember specific moments as if they happened yesterday. With my second wife, I remember all of the trips...hiking, traveling. What I've learned is that every person we love touches us and changes us in some ways. Do you really want to get this person out of your mind? How about celebrating the cool things they brought into your life and figuring out how you want to build these things into your life now. What can you learn about yourself from this experience?