sons ex

really struggling at the moment this damb relationship has been doing our heads in since they met,now they separated and have a child, after two years grandson is about 6mths and they not been in a real relationship since he was born lots keep going on but son has a new gf as of last week it might go somewhere or it might not and gf doesnt want to get involved between son and his little boy so thats fine but the bloody ex well she was texting all the time, and if you dont respond she starts saying things to get our attention, shes not meant to talk to son unless its about the little boy but it was continuous so he changed his no and blocked her from his facebook page, but since that happened shes been texting us instead grrr, i said i would talk to her but not about son, but most messages are repeated took a stand and told her today we will change our no, and just work on getting through all the court cases , which our next one is next friday 10am

If she is that annoying then going through the courts is the only way to do it, isn't it?

I think you are doing everything you can and hopefully she moves on.

Sorry social services aregoing through the courts with them to determine f the little lad
Stays with mum or not they been involved since about
Three months before he was born an to date shes not
Been on her own with him, but the next stage if the judge agrees
Is going back into the comunity, if this happens
Wondering if it will be more than texts

after further consideration and more texts today we have decided to end this annoying game once and for all, i played fair and square and kept quiet for ages now well about 6months oh yes that's how old grandson is, tomorrow i am contacting solicitor and giving a brief take on whats going but i will take phone so he can see the texts and see what he sugests, we blocked her on facebook turned phone off today so she then started texting my older daughter who doesn't even live near us while she was at a family do same thing over and over again annoying yes making me feel sad and ready to break out into tears, i might be putting seeing our little man again soon but i cant keep going on like this

well been to the solicitors he told me before seeing me that he cant keep anything i say secret from my son, well that was not my intentions, but because of sons adhd he thinks if solicitors and ss know any of the trouble he would be stopped from seeing his son, so i went behind his back and told solicitor whats been going on over the last week and half, solicitor has asked to see son tomorrow to explain what the next step is, i am expecting fall out from son but when a person talks to him from outside the family he listens so hopefully by Friday things will settle again

well today we had our first assessment to see if we are viable to care for grandson if he doesnt stay with his mun, oh dear didnt go well because we both got mental health issues we were already low on the list then she asked if we thought we could offer little man the best of us for the next say 16 years, dealing with all our other issues as well, son and the ex hubbys health my health, it was a hard decision but we declined , so now if son isn't viable on his own he wont have a chance with out us feel real guilty, my second eldest daughter is still to be assessed

well after yesterdays court case, no conclusion at moment but we were expecting that as not all the paperwork is in next court in early august, time is ticking grandson is going to be one in December, and she is still in a foster placement at the moment they never let her back into the community, good news daughters and partners assessment went well so if sons ex doesnt manage to prove shes a stable influance in her sons life he will either go to daughter and her partner or foster care and as daughter doesn't live in this area that will be good too, but here is bad news because we went to the solicitor about her continuous texting and communicating over the last two weeks and also that she met up with son grr ( she says they had sex he says no ) she is saying he forced her to have sex what a load of ...... (keeping it clean) so after leaving court being told to seek legal help just incase we are sitting here waiting

This must be difficult Katheryn. Custody issues are very complex. I hope the courts place him in the hands of a stable and loving guardian. The only way to stop repetitive texting and calls is to not reward them. Figure out what she is after and do not give her that reward. Generally it is the power to upset you or need for attention. Like a toddler, don't reward the bad behavior and it will stop. There will be no reason to text, if it does not get her what she seeks.

We worked out shes after attention and by stoppingher neing able to text
Us or son she decided to say anout the sex offence instead

Sexual assault is very hard to prove. If it did not happen, she won't get any where with this accusation. Your son needs to stay the course of no contact, in person or by any electronic means. A lawyer is your best course. You will be advised to have no contact with her and say nothing. Let her demonstrate her craziness while you remain calm, composed, and clearly sane

Today started as any other normal day, up earlier than normal had
To drive 45 mins from home on a good trip but at 8am we would encounter
The school and work traffic, appointment was for 9am
Lucky we had a phone numer managed to phone ahead and say we were running late,
Managed to arrive just after 9 so not to bad (left son to his appointment )
Did a nosey around the supermarket before heading bk to pick son up
Then a return trip home but we took a diversion to a truck stop and had early dinner/late breakfast while there som had a missed call from sw , phone was in the car so heading on our journey to visit friends we kept trying to return the call but no luck so left it till we arrived at friends eventually managed to get hold of the sw son had a quick convo then cam bk to us to explain that ss were heading to court as sons ex had walked away from foster placement , leaving our little man with the foster carers for the weekend , and on her return today they seeked a court order to care for little man , so now neither parent is with hom coz of this female playing games , hopefully now the court will see whats best for little man and decide which home he will go onto (hopefully my daughters) but we got to wait and see

(((((((((katheryn))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) My thoughts are with you and your family.
I will pray you get your grandson back.

today we see little man for the first time since they moved into a foster placement, before was at the assessment center, he will have grown as he is 6 months gone are the days when both parents were in his life now being cared for by foster carers, son i think feels guilty for this but so does hubby, we tried to keep them on track in his first 6 weeks of his life but no she had other plans so of to a foster placement on her own son left with just visits he seemed ok as he would do anything to make this work, doing what ex said moved bk to there flat took responsibility for his own meds but placement time came, questions were asked they said son was mentally unstable so a week was set up for him to attend daily looking forward to moving in the placement but the day came and it never happened she kicked him to the curb upset wasnt the word not fit to drive to pick him up i got a friend to go son came home same day moved all his stuff out of there flat the next day, over the next few weeks son saw his little boy three times a week until they moved into second foster placement his time went down to twice a week, now after ll the aligations harrasing txts she walked away from little man thinking only of her self, thought she would be able to walk bk when she liked but anybody that works with ss know they dont work that way child comes first and so they should, now we are onto finding whats next for little man in court on monday to see what she has to say, judge is a clever man he wil see through her lies

As always my thoughts and prayers are with you and dec. This has to be so hard on you guys.
The judge will see what kind of mother she is.
((((dec and kathy)))))))))))))))))))(((little man)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Well this week has been a bit of a whirl wind today is friday
And i know sons ex gets to see little man today hope she can
hold it togeather for his sake, we saw him on weds he was so
happy and relaxed will try to upload a photo laters bk to
court on monday,

today after speaking to some solicitors and son having advocacy to help him a small glimmer of hope has formed, daughter says she will fight if the solicitor says there is a case at least that will put there minds at rest if they didn't ask they would always wonder what iffs , i have to take the report straight to the solicitor when it gets here so they can go through it to see if they have a case to fight for guardianship of our little man if no case its then up to the judge to determine if the mother gets another chance or he is placed up for adoption if its adoption he will receive a box full of stuff from his family when he turns 16, and we could ask for letterbox contact which could be a photo or letter once a year, and us in turn can send him stuff like a birthday card and xmas card, we still have his bank account which i will encourage his father to keep adding money too , but deep in my heart i hope and pray that the solicitor can find a case for daughter to fight and she will get finacial help, as other wise it will be way expensive ....... will keep you all informed bk in court on the 8th of august