[sushislinger]

1st: I'm not going to be a hypocrite and preach to everyone and pretend life is peachy. It's not...
I'm as confused, vulnerable and emotionally messed up as the next person, but if there is 1 no -negotiable in my life it is this: LEARN FROM YOUR EXPERIENCES AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF BEFORE YOU TRY INVOLVE OTHERS IN YOUR LIFE.
You can spend days, weeks, months or years searching for that someone to fill the void, that dark crevice in your soul/heart/spirit and 'find' them time and again, only to BE let down because of your own insecurity and lack of judgement. We are fed the images and ideals through pop culture and even accounts of history, this idea that who and what you surround yourself with is what defines you. You can't be whole, perfect or happy without a mate/partner/spouse and then it is prescribed to us what the aforementioned mate/partner/spouse should look like, act like and aspire to. Well I say bullsh1t!!! ''A rockin' bod, washboard abs and pumped guns'' make you no more than a stereotype and if that is what defines a suitable/desirable mate then I would venture to say that we are all better off alone, reproducing by ourselves like frogs...
You don't need the perfect 10 at your side to make you whole, to complete you, so to speak. Look out for yourself and learn to love who you are as a person individually. If you don't like what you see in the mirror; change it... Take some time for introspection and improve not only yourself, but your PERCEPTION of yourself!

A bit of a rant, I know... Just take a moment to think about it and decide for yourself. I personally can't remember ever being happier than I was when I was alone and happy with who I am... I love me and you would too if you were me

Just saying...

Love and Lightsabres

-Jay

[healingme4me]

Taking care of self before involving others!! Like that non-negotiable!

[Leed]

I second that~ You must be comfortable in your OWN SKIN before you can love anyone else.

God bless! Hugs, Lee

[sushislinger]

Thanks for the support guys. I am sorry if it was a bit of a rant and not everyone wants to hear it, but I feel its something that isn't said enough.
And people will try to make you feel bad for wanting to be alone or rejecting their advances, but don't succumb to that. Misery loves company and people will try to drag you under when they are drowning. Personally, my ex is trying to find reasons to be angry at me and villify me because its easier to be angry than it is to be sad. Pay no credence to this kind of thing, stick to your guns and hold yourself in the highest regard.
And remember: you are awesome!!!!

[Poppy Princess]

I disagree to an extent. Not necessarily romantic, but I think people's view on you is what defines you in the end.

[sushislinger]

I respect your opinion and reject it completely!
What defines you, in my opinion, is the perception you create for yourself. I understand the whole concept of social perception and acceptance by your peers et cetera ad naseaum infititum, but take for example people like Richard Branson, Brian Warner, even Lady frikken Gaga! They all created a new norm, a perception that they themselves defined... So I guess I'm saying that normal is relative and one shouldn't be bothered about what other people think because if it makes you happy and you love yourself and what you stand for: you can't go wrong.
Feel free to disagree, but remember: if I agreed with you, we would both be wrong

[Poppy Princess]

To me it's like a picture you make. You can like it but your opinion's biased. You're the one who made it. It isn't until people perceive it that you know wither it's good or not. People may have differing opinions but there's always a general consensus.

[sushislinger]

I agree to a certain extent. But if you control and shape public opinion you can be just fine.
When I stopped giving a **** about what people thought and started carrying myself with dignity and pride, people began respecting me for the confident, assertive person I had become.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should get 152 piercings and tattoos on your face, but care less about other peoples opinions and more about your own. Comprende?

[sushislinger]

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince
others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need
others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world
accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu