My jealousy ruined my relationship

I have been with my partner for a year & a half, until today. First off, in the beginning (1st 4 months), she was still talking to her ex and girls online. She spilled the beans to me and it was done.

Well, now I'm extremely JEALOUS! We go to the store, I catch her looking, but sneaky about it. I catch her every time. She never admits it though.
I even get mad over the TV, books, magazines, the store, anything with other girls in it, it makes my blood boil to watch her check other girls out.

By the way, she tells me how much she loves me, and I know she was faithful. We have been through ALOT over this last year and it brought us closer, but I still get so jealous that she wants nothing to do with me.

What do I do about these overwhelming feelings?? I have tried to stop and recognize my problem, but nothing works. I know I'm a great girl, I'm alot of fun, caring, and compassionate, so why is this green eyed monster ruining my life??????????? Please help.

I understand what you're going through. One thing you should remember is that: thought is not a crime. Acting on thoughts and natural compulsions would be a betrayal of your relationship, but this, it seems to me, is just normal human instinct (looking at other people).

Have you looked at other girls in the past year and a half? Have you talked to your exes?

Have you thought about why maybe you're so jealous? What are you afraid of? What do these feelings of rage and betrayal really say about you and your insecurities?

Best of luck and I hope things get better!

jealousy comes from insecurity.. insecurity comes from being betrayed in the past or possibly from a family where there has been betrayal or divorce..
im the poster girl for jealousy..sad to say.. ive been there (still there infact) , bought the tshirt, got the photos to prove it..
the thing is..there is no way your partner or mine or anyones for that matter can compete with their loved ones insecurities.. it is something that you need to deal with and work thru.. the great thing is if your partner is understanding enough to work thru them with you...
speak to her, and tell her you realize that you need to work on your jelousy, and you love her, and want to be with her. please can she help you overcome these insecurities you keep having..
cos at the moment when you react to your jealous emotions.. your partner feels she is being "attacked" or blamed.. and accused of doing something wrong.. which is why she is now pushing you away..
she is only human.. she will look at another woman.. it human nature..just so long as she does not act on it ..you need to learn to build your trust with her, but you need to involve her in this process.. she will be much more understanding.. let her know (in a calm loving way) what behavior triggers you jealousy, let her know that you know she is doing nothing wrong and you are not accusing her of being unfaithful.. would she be able to help you overcome these negative feelings by.. being more aware of what your triggers are and try to avoid them..
but the thing to remember is that she is with you and faithful to you..
(communication will save your relationship.. )

Have you maybe tried letting her no and explaining in the best way about how you feel n y u react the way you do?
if she loves you her job as a partner is to be there for you,and help you get thru those situations
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*tiny

Jealousy is related to insecurity and both have roots in fear. What do you fear by this behavior? I know that my fear in this behavior stems from may by bf will think someone is prettier than me or think about another girl while he's with me. My current bf doesn't do this, but in the past I've just kinda tapped my bf on the shoulder, laid a sexy kiss on him, and whispered as seductively as I could,"I'm the one you're going to bed with tonight." Then turned and walked away. After a few times of that happening, the behavior stopped.

Are you the only great girl on the whole planet?..