Can an adult commit his/her parent if needed?

I need some advice on this. I want to know some options, and of course opinions on this, I'm thinking having my mother committed in an attempt to save her life, and possibly get her some help. Please care, I'm all alone here.

Yes, you can do this but it has to be through the courts. It's not exactly an easy process. Please refresh my memory here. Does your mother have a criminal record? Is she on probation for anything? Who is her general care doctor if any? Therapist?

You could try to convine her to go into treatment...that's not easy, and it's voluntary, which means she can leave as well, unless she does something suicidal.

The other option is calling the Police (if & when she is out of hand) for assitance and having her taken to ER. She'd get a psych evaluation. This approach I would use at the very last resort, because it really is an utmost last resort.

Know whatever you do, do, you will be on the major crap list for a long time to come, unless she is ready and can see through the crap. If she wants to make a change, that would be a whole lot easier to do. Doesn't sound to this point like this is the circumstance right?

All I can say is good luck, make yourself a support system because you yourself are going to need it. We went through detox with two of my brothers on numerous occassions each. One is doing really well now, the other committed suicide years ago. I have another brother as well that needs help, but won't seek it, never has (it's tearing his life apart). So, I certainly know a bit of what you must be feeling right about now. It's a bag of mixed emotions, that's why I advise you to take care of you too!!!! This is gonna be hard on you (((desirae)))) no matter which way you go. With or without treatment for your mom, it's a difficult place to be in.

Much support in hugs & thoughts Lisa

Oh, and if she is on probation or what not, you can always use that route to gain her some help. The other thing is you can call some drug or alcohol abuse places in your area and ask what you can do. They know the legalities in your county & state. I did this with one of my brother's and it really was the whole turning point in his life.

I've tried many times to talk my mom into getting rehabilitation for her drug use, mental help, get on meds all that, but she does not care enough about anybody or herself to even want it. I'm afraid that if I continue ignoring her behavior she will eventually die....I regretted posting this because now, I don't care anymore, I really don't. If she kills herself, gets murdered, raped, OD's, goes mental and burns her house down....I don't give a %#@&#!. I haven't talked to her in a week, and this week has been great!!!!...I'm free from her using me, verbally abusing me, and manipulating......screw her, she's a ***** anyway. She can die, I'd be sad, but not shocked at all!!!



I'm a tad upset, odvisiouly, I'm an emotional mess today and I've given up offocially.....she accused me of sleeping with my step dad!!!!......screw her, she can go to hell and smoke all the crack she wants, I'm ready to be free from her ******** now.

Your feelings are understandable. You cannot get your mother to change. Only your mother can make herself change. A friend of mine who became a counselor said in college, "crazy people don't want to change. It is all they know, and they get attention." That was rather harsh, but whatever happens with your mother is her fault, not yours. You seem to have done your best to help her.

We had an intervention once, and it was a fiasco. The AA woman who was to help us got scared and bolted for the door, leaving us with a furious woman.

Later, the woman hit her husband in front of her grand children. They were in the car at the time, and her husband drove to the mental institution had had her committed. Since she committed an assault, her husband was able to keep her in for more than three days. She was furious with the family after the medication wore off. I think she was in for six months. She scammed the doctors and they had her leading group discussions and counseling sessions.

Be easy on yourself. You can do only so much.

des hon you can have her committed but she will only get help if SHE wants it. I know it has to be very hard on you to sit and watch her do this to herself but ultimately it is up to her. Take care of you and your kids first and foremost! but for you maybe try al anon. it will help you distance yourself. hang in there sweetie,.

des, when i worked at the psych hospital we got a lot of people who didn't want to be admitted. they didn't work the programs and would actually try to sabotage other patient's progress. she has to want to change.

Basically anyone can involluntarily commit anyone. to do this if they are not the persons legal guardian they have to either go to court and prove the person is unable to mentally and physically capable of making their own medical decisions. you will need documentation that she is unable to maintain a checking account, pay her own bills, do her own shopping and make her own meals, take care of her own home. Once guardianship is granted all you have to do is request the court to involluntarily commit her until you can find a suitable long term facility for her.

If not going the court route anyone can take anyone to their local ER and request the person be seen by 2 staff psychiatrists for possible involluntary commitment on the grounds of being a danger to herself and or others.

she will be seen by 2 psychiatrists that will decide if she should be committed or released.

Beware though you go either route and she is deamed mentaly competent and not committed she is going to be royally mad at you. If you are living with her you might want to find another place to stay before taking action because after taking action you will probably not be welcome for some time in her home.

Once she is in the Mental health Unit like already stated she could sabotoge the plans or play a game of "I'm getting better thank you so much for your help" just to get released.

It is better if someone of authority - her doctor or the police - do the committing and that she wants to go. otherwise you will be on the recieving end of the fall out from your committing her and she will not do the program.

des.......a lot of hospitals don't have a Pdoc on staff. the admitting doctor, of the hospital, or the head ER doctor can have her sent, with police, to the local lockup mental health facility if they determine that she will hurt herself. in all the time that i worked in ER, no one was ever evaluated by a Pdoc and our head ER doc always talked to the family and sent the patient on to the center...it doesn't take two doctors to agree to do it.....that's true in six states that i know of. xoxoxo pat