Is she too old for me? (okcupid)

I agree, over-thinking all of this.. do you think you may be trying to sabotage this? Please stop coming up with reasons why you shouldn't go on a date! This is what you want - to meet people and find a date, so try not to let your nerves get the better of you now you've the opportunity.. an opportunity that you've created by the way, which is ace :-)

Age is just a number... my brother has always gone out with older women - says they are better company and less silly. And his long term g/f of about 14 years is 5 years older. It works for them just as it would be working for many other people out there - and it could work for you too!
As for the virgin thing, no, I don't think you should tell her. Apart from it being none of her business, its something that you share if you get serious with each other, not immediately and not on your online profile. And yes, some women may feel strange about it, but others may just find it very touching. Whoever it is, they would be privileged to be your first.

And.. please go, relax, enjoy. Try to remember, there's no stress - a date is to start getting to know each other and see if you like each other. It should make you a little nervous, but it should be more than that - it should be exciting! If you go, please let us know how you got on? Be lovely to hear.

Hugs.

The only issue I see is that she can go to the bar and you can't. If that isn't an issue to either of you the age gap shouldn't be either.

And this will sound sexist (I'm sorry) I would be more concerned if a 26 year old guy was dating a 20 year old girl, but your situation seems fine, and if things work out for the long run women live longer so that is in your favor too...

This is a very good catch.

yeah I guess, I mean, I'll be 21 in like... 2 weeks

Congratulations. I will never be able to understand why such an irrationally high drinking age limit has been instituted in this country, but to the extent that it is reality, you will be entering the realm of adulthood in two weeks.



That alone should bridge the gap between you and your date.

haha true true. Although... I actually just got a text from another girl from okc who hadn't texted me in a while, saying she was back in town and if I want to hang out this week. I want to meet her, but would that be messed up of me? I mean, I like the 26 year old, but she hasn't really been very responsive to me lately. I think I might just go on a date with this other girl on friday. I mean, I only have a couple more weeks of summer and I want SOMETHING to happen. Plus she seems pretty cool. she's 20 by the way.

Go go go go go!! Isn't the whole point of okc to meet a few people and hope that the magic happens with one of them? I think its more than fine to meet several people and get to know them.
Don't worry about things, please don't over-think things, just go with the flow and try and enjoy yourself :-)

Hugs!

Ahh, to be 21 again!

GO! The point of okc is to go on many dates, with many different people. If you're lucky, you'll hit it off with one of them!

You can bet both the 20-year-old and the 26-year-old are each going on dates with several different people from okc, not just you.

When I was on okc, I was usually talking to/meeting 3-4 people at once.

ahh ok well then I'm going Guess I don't have to feel bad about it then. we'll see where it goes. And funny also... I saw a question the 26 year old answered about age gap and what she thought was too big an age gap in a relationship and she answered 15 years. woohoo! guess I'm in the cut :P But yeah, I'm excited for this date on friday. This will be my second ever date and I way waayy nervous.

Brilliant! Have a good time Rolan86 :-)

so I just came back from my third date ever. I'm still trying to decide how it went. I mean I think she liked me. We just hung out at her place and then just walked around and hung out at a park. Although I don't think I'm really into her that way now that I've met her. I mean I'd be down to be friends but I just couldn't see her being my girlfriend. Just way different lifestyles I guess. She's into like hippie stuff and saving the environment and hippie music festivals and all, which I think are totally cool and I respect her interests, but it's just not really my lifestyle. Plus I dunno, I just didn't feel like yes! I found the one! but overall I'm really glad I put myself through with it. I wanted to go on a date this summer. And I did.

Glad you went!! How were your nerves?! Sounds like a nice chilled out date :-) Sorry that you didn't feel the spark, but hopefully find one soon.

What's her number?

hahaha, just kidding. I'm a married man! (seriously, it was just a joke)

haha no worries. I dunno, I mean I'm fine with the hippie stuff, just she was way to extroverted, made me a little uncomfortable. like she was really loud and had no problem singing song lyrics out loud, which just made me a bit uncomfortable, because I don't know how to react to that. like am I supposed to laugh, smile, pretend to sing along? I think she liked me though, and told me to hit her up again, so I think I'm just going to be polite and just try and come across as a friend.

I dunno... you probably cannot live with a person who is SO different from you on the introverted-extroverted spectrum, but as a date she sounds fun enough.

I wouldn't overthink it. Most women end a date by saying "I had a great time; we should do this again"-- it's polite. It may be a sign of sincere interest, and it may not be. So I would go by how you feel, without worrying about her. If you want to see her again, then call her. If not, don't. If you don't call her and she calls you, then you can say something like "yeah, I think we'd make great friends" and take it from there. In the meantime, it wouldn't be a bad idea to check out your other options and see if you click more wit someone else.

Well. the 26 year old asked me if I wanted to go to a show with her wednesday night. I'm gonna go. I'm excited but also really nervous. I really don't like going to shows anymore for anxiety reasons, but I know that if I try and come up with some excuse and say I can't and maybe another time, it won't happen. ever. I've learned from past experiences, when you get an opportunity, you TAKE it, because it will NEVER come up again (with that girl). so yeah, I'm not looking forward to the show part, but I am very excited about seeing her.

Relax and let the folks who PERFORM in the show get anxious from stage fright!