[alf0156]

The person i fell in love with has decided that she don't want to be with me anymore. we now live apart. i made the mistake tonight of driving by her place and there was another guy there, sleeping with her. i am crushed. worse then lonely, i don't know what to do with my self now. i just want the pain to stop. i am shuting all emotion and fealings off for ever. to everyone. i will never let anyone into my emotions again. this is the 3rd time my emotiond have been screwed with. everyone is out

[JustAPixie]

(((((((((((alf0))))))))))))

It is so hard when love ends. But isn't it better to have loved and lost to never have loved at all as they say? The pain of a broken heart is excruciating, and although you can't see it now and don't want to believe it, it will heal again, and again, and again untill you find your true love...

the trouble with love is that it isnt always a two-way emotion. it is easy to fall deeper for someone than they have for you. to be able to say you loved her is an achievement. love is powerful, it holds so much power that it can destroy a person.

i know that after a loss like yours, and to then see her with someone else can be so heartbreaking, theres no doubt about it. this will heal in time, and your heart will repair itself. please dont feel you need to shut your emotions off to anyone and everyone. i know you want to shut everyone out, so for w little while i think you should. just so your heart can focus on mending.

you need to grieve. you have lost something so dear to you. its like a death of a loved one, they have gone for good and all you want is for them to be back with you. unfortunately this isnt going to happen, but soon enough you will find that part of you that knows the secret to carrying on.

you say its happened before, well you were able to love again, so after this time you will again. and like tanya says, it might happen again, its just part of life and us trying to find that special person we want to spend the rest of our life with. so dont shut that out, you might miss out on a lifetime of true happiness and love with that special someone. and you dont want that, no one does.

i know how hard it is, and i understand what you are going through. so give yourself time to grieve and mourn your loss. go with whatever emotions you have at the time, good or bad. its all part of the process.

take care of yourself and my thougths are with you, alf.

simon

[oksomaybeimnuts]

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sending you good thoughts

[SeptemberMorn]

Alf, you said you drove by her place. How do you know she had a guy there sleeping with her?

You really do need to take care of yourself FIRST before you get into a relationship, Hon. They are difficult to begin with without bringing all kinds of baggage into them.

You sound like a pretty neat guy from the times I've talked with you. You owe it to yourself to take care of YOU.

Hang in there, ok?

[weather]

Right now part of you and your hopes have died. Its hard for it to feel much worse. A lot of people are pulling for you as you drag yourself out of this crater. Its hard to get your hopes up after something like this, but you will eventually, because you must. Take care of yourself. Give yourself a treat, even if it is just a candy bar or an apple.

[seeker1950]

I know it's hard to hear this, but you WILL heal from this in time. Time is the only thing that has worked for me, but it does work.
Healing thoughts,
Patty

[alf0156]

the last time i went through this i went through many stages, First denial, then Guilt, then hurt, then anger ,then vengence. right now i am passing into anger about it. and to answer the question, i know he was sleeping because i decided to walk up to the place and i heard noised and it was not snoring.

[seeker1950]

Please try to restrain yourself from doing such things, unless you want to be considered a stalker!

[JustAPixie]

(((((((((((( alf0 ))))))))))))

I'm so sorry this had to happen...

[TYMBERWOLV]

I CAN RELATE TO YOU ALF I WILL BE HERE WHEN YA WANNA TALK ... I SHARING THE SAME THING RIGHT NOW I DEAL WITH THE LOSS OF MY SPOUSE EVERYDAY BUT I HAVE LEARNED A WAY TO DEAL WITH IT ..

YOU MUST DEAL WITH YOURSELF FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE IN YOURSELF .. I UNDERSTAND THE PAIN VERY WELL ... IF YOU ALLOW THIS ONE PERSON TO CHANAGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON YOUR EMOTIONS YOU JUST HANDED OVER YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO THAT PERSON AND YOU HAVE LOST CONTROL WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE --

[alf0156]

she has put a restraning order against me and filled it with lies about me. i am pacuring a lawer to help me, and i am not alowed to see my son because of it. that is it i have had enough, the line has been crosed. i want out.