[IchbinkeinTeufel]

So I'm just gonna go ahead and put it out there: I'm single; I don't like it, but through fear am I too scared to remedy it.

How do you deal with being single? Do you hate it? Do you love it?

[Nicks_Nose]

I have been single for many years now and I am quite comfortable like this. I have my routines, my habits (good and bad), and I like being the decision maker of my life. If I fall, I have only myself to blame and I hopefully learn from the mistakes (not always)

I guess being a natural introvert, I find it easier to enjoy my own company.

[Yoda]

When I was in my early twenties I desired to be in a relationship immensely and ended up marrying a guy that I had some doubts about because I didn't want to be alone. Seven years later we divorced, I met another guy and we lived together for seven years. Now that I am middle aged I want casual friends to do activities with but no longer want an exclusive "romantic" relationship. Maybe someday I will change my mind if I meet someone special but I am quite happy with my single status now.

[MarlboroChick]

I like being single. Right now i have a girlfriend, but its hard for me to be committed to people. Im not good at resisting impulses at all, but i cant stand cheating either.
I like flings, though, so being single has always been nice for me. Im not good with responsibility.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

I see. For me, I'm just not sure I'm even wired that way anymore. It feels like everything got tied in a knot, and I'd need someone to go in and untie all the mess. Giggety. I'm loney, I miss the companionship, I miss being in-love, and I miss feeling like I belonged with someone, or like I had purpose, but at the same time, I'm scared, to be honest. I've also got a lot going on, and am pretty messed up, so it's kinda like... a case of finding someone of whom can even accept me, even with all my problems, since this seems so monumentally unlikely, I kind of just don't bother looking or anything, regardless of that small part of me that may well be loney and all that. Point is, going through that whole process all over again with someone, freaks me out. Learning to trust a woman again, freaks me out. The whole thing just makes me uneasy. :\

Is there anyone else that feels like this? :|

Sorry if I worded stuff badly - I'm recovering from a bad panic attack, and am very tired.

[IndieVisible]

The title of this thread got me ruffled at the ridges!

Any way I some times wish I was single. As a male i can honestly say I fall in the can't live with them and can't live without them camp.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Why did it ruffle the ridges? I kind of have no idea what that means; is it a bad thing? :|

At least you're not alone - you have someone that loves you, cares for you, is there for you, or so I assume, since you're with someone, but... hopefully I'm not wrong. :P

It's just another step in life for me. Tend not to really think about it, and just go day by day like normal.

Be nice to have some more friends, and to not feel quite as lonely, but otherwise I don't feel I need anyone.

Whatever your answers are, I hope you find them and can be happy in life.

[LadyShadow]

I don't like being single, I want someone to love me as much as I love them. But there is so much that I have to give myself to make it work, and I can't handle it.

I'm in a situation with my ex now where we talk to each other a couple of hours every night for company without the "label".

I'm alright with that for now, but I will want more in the future. I just don't want to try with anyone else. I'm weird I know :/

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by Akuma

Why did it ruffle the ridges? I kind of have no idea what that means; is it a bad thing? :|

At least you're not alone - you have someone that loves you, cares for you, is there for you, or so I assume, since you're with someone, but... hopefully I'm not wrong. :P

well it's not funny any more when u have to explain it

Ruffles Potato Chips verses Pringles Potato Chips.

Ruffles have ridges!

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Lol. Oh. Still funny. I've just not heard that one before.

[MarlboroChick]

Originally Posted by Akuma

I see. For me, I'm just not sure I'm even wired that way anymore. It feels like everything got tied in a knot, and I'd need someone to go in and untie all the mess. Giggety. I'm loney, I miss the companionship, I miss being in-love, and I miss feeling like I belonged with someone, or like I had purpose, but at the same time, I'm scared, to be honest. I've also got a lot going on, and am pretty messed up, so it's kinda like... a case of finding someone of whom can even accept me, even with all my problems, since this seems so monumentally unlikely, I kind of just don't bother looking or anything, regardless of that small part of me that may well be loney and all that. Point is, going through that whole process all over again with someone, freaks me out. Learning to trust a woman again, freaks me out. The whole thing just makes me uneasy. :\

Is there anyone else that feels like this? :|

Sorry if I worded stuff badly - I'm recovering from a bad panic attack, and am very tired.

I understand how you feel. I used to be just like that. I probably handled it worse then you though. I went out and had sex with tons of people hoping one of them would 'take it a step further'. It happened sometimes but always got really messy really fast.
The best relationships come when you feel while without your 'other half'. People shouldn't be missing a half in the first place. Of course thats 'ideal'. Most people's situations are too ****** to let them feel whole.

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

That's something I could not do, MarlboroChick. Given I have intimacy issues, I'm not really wired correctly, to just go off and have flings with folk, but that's not to say that it's not something of which I have sometimes considered! :P Also, getting close to someone again, physically, also scares me. I've been single for a few years, now; only in the last year, has it started to bug me.

[MarlboroChick]

It's probably a good thing that you won't do that. Got me in a lot of trouble. Not that your intimacy issues are good. Maybe they would go away once your very comfortable with a person.

[MissMaggie]

I struggled for years with separation anxiety (a few bad break ups and rejections). Ended up in a position where I needed affection and a relationship to feel worthy/happy although it was never enough really. Ended up getting married to someone I'm immensely incompatible with, which I can see so clearly now (of course, right?) but honestly, through the demise of my marriage I have learned more about myself, how strong I can be when I need to be, and have a clearer vision of what I want out of life. I think being single is an amazing thing, if you can appreciate it. But being in love is beautiful too (with the right person of course). Honestly, I think it all depends on your outlook and perspective! (Sorry for the ramble )

[MarlboroChick]

I don't think Ive ever been in love, so it's hard for mr to appreciate that haha. It's good to have someone that's 'safe' and that you can trust. I think it's really natural to want that in your life.
But being single is much more adventurous

[IchbinkeinTeufel]

Ah, MarlboroChick, it does ease up over time, if I'm with someone I trust, love, and all that jazz.

[manwithnofriends]

Oh it's easy for me (to deal with).

[MarlboroChick]

Originally Posted by Akuma

Ah, MarlboroChick, it does ease up over time, if I'm with someone I trust, love, and all that jazz.

That's good. I'd work on those kinds of relationships first then. Sounds like you want to wait for sex.