[JCG1]

Has anyone experienced having no contact or family support because of mental struggles? For many years I have struggled with a variety of issues. I have had a lot of failed treatment inpatient and outpatient. My mom also has same issues but does not acknowledge many other then a short hospital stay in the past.
This past week my mom and I are not having contact anymore. We had actually not seen each other in 5 years but talked regularly. Now we will not talk either. Recently some issues happened and she said that I need more mental help like an inpatient program because of my coping and behaviors. Though in the past I have had treatment other then a handful of outpatient psych appointments in the past few years that is all. Since I am so rational at the appointment that I do have problems I think the psychiatrists don't take it as serious. So I thought about what my mom said about inpatient and said I would but only if she did not cut me off financially. She helps me money wise since I have a physical health condition. She said no she still would cut me off cause there has been too many lies and chances given. I understand I made the mistakes. It is frustrating because my mom deals with the same and is never accountable. She blames me for example when she tried to commit suicide she wrote it was because of me. In many ways my mom is so supportive especially with my physical condition that I was diagnosed with. I feel really sad and confused. It is not just the money issue but I feel alone and like I lost my mom forever. I was wondering if I could get some feedback and thoughts cause I don't know what to think. Thank you.

[Nicks_Nose]

I think some professional assistance is necessary to help you find balance and some sense of self reliance. It is always scary when a support system is breaking down and you do not know where to turn but it sounds like both you and your mom need help independent of each other. I am not sure where you live, so I do not know specifically which services might be available to help you but make some calls to local government, health, and financial services to seek some professional assistance.

We, at PsychCentral, can be here for peer support when you feel stresses and need some emotional support through your struggles, but, first you need the professionals to help you get started on some sense of independence and self support.

Sometimes our families of origin are the cause of our mental health issues.

As painful as it is to lose all contact and support with and from them, it's an absolute necessity for our very survival.

I've had no contact or support from my family of origin, extended family, and/or friends of the family for almost 20 years now.

With one brief attempt to reconnect with a sister, which failed miserably as she betrayed my trust, I have decided I'm better off without them.

I truly feel for you as this is not an easy thing to come to terms with, and I wish you the best as you find yourself trying to figure out what to do with it.

It really is a very intense and painful thing.



ps. I also agree wholeheartedly with the previous poster ... It's imperative that you have some professional assistance via therapy and even a group, if possible, as you work through this. I couldn't have made it this far without it.

[JCG1]

Thank you for your replies.
I understand this forum does not take the place of treatment but I have had so much therapy and psychiatry both inpatient and outpatient in the past with little success. I do agree I need support but at this time I am not able for financial reasons. I will be switching medical insurance in Jan so possibly the new one will cover some care.

Pfrog I don't blame my mom for my issues and it is my fault and struggle. It has always been hard growing up with a mom with mental struggles who is in denial though. Up till now she has been supportive. I feel so sad because I do have physical medical condition that is severe and it is really hard to cope with and now that will be done alone too. Part of the issue with therapy providers is that my medical condition is hard to cope with and out of my hands that even though mentally I may not cope the best they still say I am strong if that makes sense?
I wish I could do things over and make better choices but it is too late my mom said. Being in the situation I am in I feel really abandoned by her and even in time if things get better I don't know if she can be a part of my life.
Well thank you again

[Nicks_Nose]

That is an understandable feeling and fear. Do not feel bad for having a natural emotion. You have every right to feel such fears, but, try not to let them overpower
you. Try to remind yourself that there are always options. They may not be as comfortable as what your previous options seemed to be, or they might turn out to be more rewarding. Who knows?

I have many powerful fears myself now that my two adult sons are going their own way and living expenses are not favourable where I live for me to afford a residence by myself. This is very frightening for me and my sons worry for me but I have to seek out my options. They are scarey to me but I have to try to adapt too. I am minimum wage and have seizures. However, I do not want my sons' lives to be hindered because they feel scared for me. I sort of understand where you are coming from.

Try to be strong and tell yourself a few confident things now and then. Support, financially and emotionally will help you a lot. BIG HUGS