How can you get someone to stop ignoring you without seeming desperate or clingy?

He did say he didn't want a long distance relationship with you, maybe it wasn't the "with you" pare just the long distance relationship part. Yet, he stupidly lead you on with the flirting then realized that it was wrong.

Maybe he is one of those guys who believe guys and girls can't just be friends or he likes you too much to lead you on. The last time was to see if you two could be friendly without flirting. I don't know.

Yet, not all men like the chase... I mean I'm a girl who hates that kind of idea of old.

I agree with everyone else, do yourself a favor and forget about him. If he wants to really talk he will. This way if he doesn't text you you have started on you way over him.

OH, I missed that he didn't have a condom. Maybe that was because he liked not using one but said he did because of you.

I once tried the sex without strings thing. I got too attached to the men. Yet, still for a 34 year old women to have two 21 guys like her enough to do the funky two step. Not bad eh?

Hmmm valid point, even if you do manage to forget them, they're very easy to replace if you really wanna have (safe) sex.

It was the long distance part. Sorry if I didn't make that clear, but based on what he told me it was the distance more than me. He said he hadn't had good luck with long distance relationships in the past, and it sounded as though he thought it would be different with me but realized that it was just too much for him (Though he didn't even try to make it work =/).

We've been friends for years and I've had a crush on him from very early on, which he was aware of, so I doubt it's that.

I'm going to try. It won't be easy, but I'm trying.

He brought them with him, but forgot them in his car. It was parked fairly far away and things had already started to progress quite far by the time he realized. At the time, I think he was more certain that we'd be able to get together again sometime soon. He had talked about how we'd "Do it right next time", and all that...That was before he told me he couldn't be long distance. I think he thought it could work at the time, thought he'd be able to see me again soon, and didn't want to ruin the mood at the time by running out to get condoms. So we just went with what we could do.

Ugh...He's on Steam again now. And not in-game so he'd be more likely to notice if I sent him a message right now. I'm sooo tempted to message him now... Though I suppose the last time I messaged him when he was on and not playing a game, he just went offline almost right after that. Could have been a coincidence but idk...

This is crazy! You're driving yourself nuts. Thinking what ifs and all that. I know its hard and I know that you're hurting, but he hasn't contacted you. He saw your messages on this "Steam" thing and he signed off. He hasn't answered your texts. I think you have your answer.

Please be strong and try to get him out of your head.

Learn how to play the game. The rules are simple, there are none. Find some one to chase, then capture, then control, then find some one even more challenging, so on and so on. But not everyone can be a player. If that's not you, I would suggest finding another activity you can enjoy that will distract you from him.

I don't think it's possible to get someone to stop ignoring you without seeming desperate. Instead, maybe you could look at it as though they are just not worth your effort or time? Easier said than done if you don't value yourself though....I once lived there in No self value street!
When you establish a good connection with someone, it's not hard work... it's a roller coaster of great emotions and they don't back off nor do you question yourself.
If it starts off bad, normally it ends bad.
Find the person who is worthy and compatible with you....it will save you a hell of a lot of self doubt

I know, I know! I just can't help it though I just want to talk to him so bad.

Yeah, that definitely doesn't sound like my kind of thing =/ Guess I need to find something else then.

Yeah, I'm starting to think maybe he's not worth it. It's just so hard to think like that though. Not so much because I don't value myself (though that is true to a degree). But just because I've known him for so long, been friends with him so long, love him so much, and this just doesn't seem like him. I don't know why he's acting like this now and it's driving me insane.

and that's ok too. But you need to figure out how to move on because your torturing yourself. Is he worth this torture? Aren't you better? Don't you deserve better? Then why lower your standards for him?!

I know you do! And I am so so very sorry that you are going through this. But like others have said, you are worth so much more than the torture you are putting yourself through!

You deserve better, you are worth so much. You have a kind heart, you are warm and so very forgiving because if you still want to give this guy a chance you have to be a saint!

Please please try to force yourself to stop contacting him. He doesn't realize what he is doing to you, and he obviously doesn't care.

Because this behavior is just not in line with what I know about him He's not worth it, no one is. I just want to know WHY he's being like this.

I'm still willing to give him a chance because this is just one bad thing after 7 years of him being nothing but a good friend. That's also why this is so difficult for me. I know this just isn't him. I know something must be up and I just want to talk to him so I can know I just never want to lose him as a friend.

Have you tried being directly blunt and to the point no sugar coating:

"WTF is going and no BS please I just want to know because it's driving me crazy so spill!"

It sucks you have known him for so long and he is treating you this way...but ..... Your. wasting .your. time.
You will probably Never know WHY . But life must go on, You must go on... Life isnt fair , people are not always who we think they are or want them to be. Relationships don't always end with all the loose ends tied in a pretty bow ..

I agree with what Christina said. You may not want to lose him as a friend, but HE obviously does. He doesn't seem to care that he is ruining your friendship, and he doesn't care that he is hurting you.

People aren't what we make them out to be. You may think he is this great guy and it isn't just him by acting this way, but it sounds like you put him on a pedestal he doesn't deserve to be on.

You are wasting your time and the fact is he still hasn't contacted you after all this time, and he probably never will. That is harsh, but it seems like he made the choice to cut off all contact with you and as unfair as it is you have to accept it.

I just sent him a text asking why the f he hadn't been responding to me and said that it was really upsetting me. So, we'll see...

Part of me still wonders if maybe there's something wrong with his phone. It's unlikely but I guess I just need some kind of way to justify this.

I guess you're right... It's just so difficult to let go.

Good point about putting him on a pedestal...=/ It's just so hard to accept that he doesn't even want to be friends anymore...

I haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if I'm repeating things, but you're asking the wrong question.

Why do you want attention from someone who ignores you?

Why are you not able to take no for an answer? Wouldn't you want the same favor granted to you? I would be careful if I were you, this could be construed as stalking. This person is not your mother. Your survival does not depend on him. You have evidence that he is alive and well (at least online), otherwise you would be contacting the authorities. You do not want to be contacted by the authorities on his behalf. Please contact a therapist asap, not this person again.

Because I really like him and this whole ignoring me thing is not like anything he's done before.