This is killing me

I have posted on here the last few days and it really seems to help. My husband leaves for days without contact and threatens to divorce me. He left on Sunday. I am so hurt and scared. My head tells me what a jerk he is and that his behavior is very abnormal but my heart tells me I miss him and just want him to call me. Just as an FYI I know where he goes. He travels for work and goes to his corporate headquarters in a different state. How can someone just cut off his wife and kids without contact. It seems so inhumanity to "punish" someone like this.

((((((gibbymommy))))))))
Shame on him for treating you that way. Does he do this often? This is very cruel of him to leave you in such a fashion. It's obvious that you love him but you shouldn't have to put up with this sort of treatment. Why was he punishing you anyway? Can't be a good reason for this emtional abuse.

I know how hard this must be for you, I have co-dependacy issues. If my BF leaves me even for a couple of hours I go into full on panic mode, i cant take it, and I turn into someone I dont want to be. I want to be ok with him being away from me. I want to not worry about him but I cant.

With kids it is so much worse I can imagin. Idk what to say other then STAY STRONG, if u sit down and tell yourself, this is just what he dose, he will be back, it could calm you down. I am not justifying what he dose, I am saying as someone who also gets " punished" I know everyone around me says leave leave leave, but I cant. I know you need support rather then me telling u to leave.

We got into an argument on how long to put our daughter in time out and it turned into a Hugh argument then he left.

I know I can't change him. I have to change what I do or what I am going to do in the future. It is just cathartic to write here and sometimes hear opinions from both sides.

I go through the same things, I said "yea lol" to someone in chat on FB, and it was a huge deal, all the sudden I was cheating and he didnt want to be with me. I have decided from this day forward, I am going to start a book of "rules" and after about 6 months Im going to show him my book, so he can see how controling he is over me. When he breaks one of his own "rules" im going to highlight it to show him how unequal we are. I deleted my FB today, it starts to many problems. I wish you the best of luck, sometimes reality is the best medicine. showing them how they really act, he may not see what he dose as a problem, until its done to him.