What is my fiancee supposed to do in her situation?

I just got a job offer. But its more than I'm making now. Its just she hates being at home. She is all stressed out. Can't drive because of epilepsy. Has to be cleared after 8 months. I just can't dump her cause of this situation. The new job I got is going to be further away. Her parents have no space. She's getting tired of the same routine all the time. I don't want her getting sick cause of isolation. Also her mother is against us living together but how can we have a better without the drama from everything. We are over 30.

What is she supposed to do?

Well its quite simple actually, behave like an adult. If she wants to move in with you, then she CAN do so. Mommy has no say over a 30+ year old woman.

I know the situation is probably more complex than you've stated, but with any decision there are consequences and my stance stays the same. Be an adult, make your own decisions and face the consequences.

What kind of consequences??

How am I supposed to know?

What's stopping her besides "no" from her mother? Will she be angry with your gf, will she give her the silent treatment, will she disown her? Idk what the consequences are, only you guys can answer that question...

Her mother did say that her isn't going to disown her. But I told my fiancee that she needs to call her mom occasionally to be she is ok. It is not like her mother doesn't trust me.

Can you clarify what it is the problem is here? I get you have a better job offer making more money.

What I don't understand is the rest of it. Your GF hates being at home, and how does that relate to this new job offer? Are you moving?

Who can't drive because of epilepsy?

What needs to be cleared after 8 months?

Please undesrtand I'm only trying to figure out what you're saying so I can answer better. I hate assuming i understand something and totally saying something wrong.

About the only thing I can say with what I understand is that you're over 30 yrs old and far from having to be under her mother's thumb. Make your own decisions and if your fiance can't make the decision for you instead of her mother you need to do what's best for you first.

Well, my fiancee can't drive cause of her epilepsy under law. Has to be cleared from seizures in 8 months. It's my fiancee that cannot drive yet. We have to find an apartment close to my job when offered. This is what I'm saying. She hates being at home cause her mother stresses her our of living together. She hates the same routine all the time.

Look for an apartment in an area that's very public transit or pedestrian friendly -- an area where your fiancee can access places to eat, shop, and hang without having to drive.