I'm jinxed...and some others are NOT

This is what happened recently. My colleague was chatting on hours about her love life..in few hours she revealed everything ...lol
She met this English guy(she is Filipino)... 7 months ago...within 2 months of meeting her he got a tattoo of her...bought a star for her...paid all her bad credit worth 90 k ( and he's not even rich).,,and got married. He trains birds for a living. I'm just trying to give u a better picture.
And he's hella cute...only 25.I saw him 2 days in a row, he came in the dead of the night to pick her up ( we work unusual hours) and he came hugging her calling her baby at 3 am..**** that.

It is a love story that's faster than fast and furious...
I'm not really jealous but I'm shocked.
Because she's a bad girl, she told her self...she sleeps around before meeting this guy...her ego is so high ( all her words) ..she even said that maybe she will cheat on him if he did something wrong..
I was like wtf ..this girl doesn't appreciate..or isn't grateful to have him in her life

I mean...I would never say that if I had a guy like that in my life..

A single lonely and not desperate girl like me..wants to kill her self..having witnessed this. I feel jinxed. I havent
experienced love.

And another note, that guy is gonna get hurt really bad...I feel bad for him..he's too good to be true...but I have a feeling he's gonna be hurt very soon..cannot trust this woman. And no if you are thinking I want a piece of him, no thanks because his choice of women is so poor.

Uh, I really understand what you're talking about, Lady. I've had so many similar situations, and I've never experienced love either. I've had a few relationships along the way, but it always ended not too well, and I've been taken advantage of and walked over more than I can remember... And yet the "good" guys, the ones who actually treat others the way the deserve to be treated, pick the wrong women, and wind up getting hurt just as much as we have. I wish that I could give you more hope, share my life experiences and tell you that because it happened to me, it can also happen to you - but I haven't quite experienced that yet. I know though, just from reading this message, that you are an incredible woman, and although you've been waiting for a long time, the right one will cross paths with you sooner or later, and things will fall into place. Just don't give up hope, because even though now if feels as if you're jinxed, the one that you're looking for probably feels the same way. I'm not sure if this helped at all, but I truly hope that it did maybe we could talk more about this too... and as for your colleague - I don't think that her relationship will last very long unless she changes the way that she approaches it, however that's not anything that's worth our time, energy, and/or thoughts.

Wow..right on..I'm sure you are a wonderful woman as well.
Life is tricky...it's like good people have to go through **** so they can be even more wiser..and get moksha..by letting go of all desires...so this will be their last life..that's what I want to believe..I mean why else should I suffer like this.

Thank you for your kind words..and actually it does help me..gave me a smile..and a little twinkle in my eye. Kiss and hug.
I don't want to hope anymore..just live and no expectations..such scenes will come my way and I should just ignore like its some crappy movie trailers. I have my own goals..even if I don't 'find' him I will still go forward...accomplish what I want to.

side note: i give off that unavailable vibe all the time.

It sounds like a whirlwind romance to me--and I can't help but wonder how much "love" there is really involved there (people don't always marry for love--I didn't). I also think that you're not jinxed-you're smart!

I'll try to shine another light on your friend's situation and maybe you won't see it as all that you're jinxed and she is not. Fact is most relationships that are all fire and passion in the first few weeks of meeting end in the same manner, in a big flash and very quickly. It is NOT love that they are experiencing at all. He is filling his ego by doing things for her, she is his trophy. He is 25 and making impulsive decisions that are life changing without even knowing her - there is no possible way he can know her after 2 months and however subsequent amount of time has passed. Just. no. way. Don't feel jealous. Sure she may be someone that doesnt' seem to "on the surface" to deserve him because she has potential to be unfaithful, but quite honestly if you really look at it, maybe she does "deserve" him as there is no way in hell this guy can be real. In the sense that as soon as he's bored with her filling his ego, he will likely move on. There is no substance in a relationship like this.

Maybe she's jinxed and you're fortunate that when you do find the ONE he will actually love and cherish you.

*many hugs*
~S4

why didnt you marry for love???????????

You right...
You can say I'm not as spontaneous and unwise as I used to be. Not a next door girl type. Just minding my own business so **** off type. Unavailable yes.

But yes, I silently hope for improvements

Sorry I missed out...if its too much to ask...what did you marry for?
Ummm......??

Sorry...I didn't get your question?
How can I marry...if there's no one? .....lol
It's like newtons 4 th law...very hard to understand

I think that is a question toward the person that said they didn't marry for love not directed at you

So, she's got herself a wealthy bloke. Yeah, she's in for a surprise, when she does cheat. Rich ones have access, to ways of catching ladies that do that.

Maybe he's not the greatest catch, he's gotta come with some baggage, 90k,, debt...hmmmmm...


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Well, with my 1st husband it was a little complicated and kind of wierd. We had been going together for a while and I really liked him at first. But then he became abusive so I tried breaking up with him many times. But then he would stalk me and harrass me until I finally caved in. Plus,my sister and brother-in-law, who were my legal guardians at the time, felt sorry for him and pressured me (no actually MADE me) stay with him figuring I could somehow "save him." He was also buying my shampoo, clothes and food, and they wanted me to stay with him so that they wouldn't have to do all that (I wanted to just get a job but they wouldn't let me for some odd reason). there was also a lot of religious abuse going on (long story) and, at 18, I sat down with them and told them I was breaking up with him. But they insisted that God "told them" that I had to marry this a**hole! I was confused, but I believed them.

After about three years, I realized that it wasn't GOD who wanted me to marry this guy. So I left him. But he kept stalking me for a couple years after that. There was this one guy who claimed he really loved me, so I married him hoping that my ex-husband would "get the point" and leave me alone--it worked. But I also married my 2nd husband because I was homeless and needed a place to live. I mean, I wasn't really out in the streets or anything, but I was "staying" with a family member who was so verbally abusive that I had to get out of there. Of course, that was also a big mistake. After we were married for a while, he finally admitted to me that the only reason he wanted to get married was because he wanted the "stigma" of marrying a white woman (he was Mexican). But there were other problems there--long story.