I must be a weird person... I don't know, when me caring for others gets too much...
I try to show compassion... to listen... to support... Still I get misunderstood. I love people...

I feel like a failure... I'm not good at this.

nina......you are one of the most caring people i have ever had the pleasure to know.....you are so not a failure......don't ever feel bad for caring too much.......you're a beautiful woman and friend...

[Christina86]

(((((Nina))))))))

You're not a failiure and you are good at "this". People get misunderstood - sad, but true.

You do help people -

Thank you, Julia and Christina!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're both wonderful friends!

I don't want pity, like some seem to think that I do.... So no more replies to this post, please. I made a mistake writing it.

[domino]

I've read your poems and they bring so many feelings to my heart....... Thanks you for being here.

[Perna]

I don't think it's ever a mistake to tell your friends when you're having trouble and "ask" for support. No one is pitying you, we're too busy all being in the same boat! We're glad you're working on expressing it for us, helping us to see "your" unique angle so we can get a better picture to work with. Not all "tries" are going to end in success but we have to keep trying. That's the whole job and I think you do it well.

no pity from me, woman! just appreciation for your honesty and openness. it is a rare quality that you have. no behind the back stuff, no fake crap, just good ole fashioned up front love..........xoxoxox pat

[Fuzzybear]

Sorry hon. I know how you feel.

[LILITH]

Nina, do not define yourself by what others think... you have compassion for others. Not many people care for others... you have earned a special place in the hearts of many.

Julia...
Christina...
Domino...
Perna...
Pat...
Fuzzy...
Altheia...

Thank you all for caring about me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[seeker1950]

Such a sweet reply from you Poetry! I like that pic of the artist!
Patty

seeker1950...

Thank you!

[seeker1950]

LOL, and , OH, my ! I'll have to copy and save Mona Lisa!
Love
Patty

[seeker1950]

By the way...Nothing is wrong with you for caring...I am the same. In my life, now age 56, I've just learned to balance my responses somewhat.
Love,
Patty

[__zh]

there is nothing weird about you nina......you DO show compassion, you DO support others, you DO listen....and you OBVIOUSLY DO love people.

if other folks get mixed up with how you express what is listed above then that is THEIR issue, THEIR problem and THEIR stuff.

please do not take on the grief of others and call yourself a failure.

if anything you're a success for posting about this and asking for feedback. you've challenged your distortions and you've received some helpful posts from the members of this community.

sorry you're not feeling like you're good at this.......we happen to think you do a fine job of interacting peacefully with others

water off a duck's back.......try to let the misunderstandings roll off you like water off a duck's back. don't even give distortions a second to penitrate....let them roll off immediately. practice and you'll be feeling less like a failure and more like the kind, sharing, helpful lady you are.

kindly,

well, said, miss Z!!!!!! all true........

nina, i saved the photog's pic. now i'm going to find an outfit like that!!! xoxoxo pat

[Fuzzybear]

That's a shame if some seem to think you want pity.... I don't think of you that way at all,... who wants to feel bad..... you know?

My hope is that misunderstandings are sorted out, I don't know what they are.... but still I hope they are sorted out

(((((((((((( Nina ))))))))))))))

__zh... Thank you for giving me such a wonderful reply to my post! It's too much! Your words moved my heart... I hope you're feeling good, __zh! Thanks again!

Pat... Thank you, my friend!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you, Fuzzy!

[Sabrina]

Nina - I realise you don't want more replies to your thread but I just wanted to say that although I have no idea what happened, I do know that you are one of the most loving, caring and non-judgemental people I have ever had the pleasure of "meeting".

Stay as precious as you are!

This isn't about something specific... it's about how it's been for me many times in life. It hurts not being seen as who you really are... I try to be there for others... I know I'm not perfect... but then again, who is?!
I just feel like some kind of an outsider in many ways.

Thank you Sabrina for your supportive and sweet words to me!
I'm really not used to, getting all these nice words. I will keep them in my heart and try to think of them when times are rough.

You all have made a difference for me... with your caring words. Thank you, my fellow wanderers on this road of life! I hope I can be there for you as well, in sadness and pain, in sunshine and rain... and in laughter. Once again: THANK YOU!