[SweetSunshine]

For the past 2 weeks .. I've been thinking it over in my head how nice it would be to take a day trip somewhere to celebrate our 17th wedding anniversary. I had a couple different places picked out. And I've been trying to ask him where he'd like to go. I get a call tonight .. and he's decided to work Friday night. Our anniversary night. Not even asking me if thats ok. He knew how I was looking forward to going. Just makes me so mad. He never considers our day to be special. Year after year.. its the same damn thing. When will I learn to not to expect anything nice? I feel so hurt and disappointed. Maybe this is something I deserve . IDK.. I'm sorry if this sounds selfish of me. We've had so many hard times we've gotten thru.. and I wanted to do something special to remember this happy day that I thought it was for the both of us.

[Fuzzybear]

That stinks Bethy, I'm sorry!

Mr Bear and I missed our anniversary day this year due to work commitments (he's self employed and often at home, but not that day )..

All I can suggest is maybe arrange another special day for the two of you.... It's very disappointing as this keeps happening though. You deserve better! My thoughts are with you

[Meta]

((((tryin2beme))))

I could have written your post except I am not married as long. I don't know except maybe we both need to read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?!?"
I know this kind of thing puzzles me...

Let me know if you figure anything out. Meantime do something nice for yourself.

Meta

[mssumom]

(((((Bethy)))))

I'm sorry!! Be good to yourself.......take care

[biplol]

~~~~~~~~tryin2bme, tons of hugs your way~~~~~~~~~~~

[domino]

Bethy I feel for you so much. I have been in the same situation for the last 21 years. Always thinking that one day we will have a nice weekend or a week away together just the two of us. In twenty hears we managed it for the first time this year. We went away for 4 days. I was so happy. I never thought it would happen. It was my brother in law who booked the flight tickets. we stayed with him and his wife but never the less, I was getting away from my everyday life of cleaning, ironing, cooking and washing for everyone. After twenty years of marriage I was beginning to give up of a few days alone with hubby. When it finally happened I was over the moon. I felt that I was on another planet. It was hard getting back to my usual household jobs.

[nothemama8]

Bethy, I know it seems unfair, but maybe ya can save up for a bigger celabration on your 20th , Papa and I just do quite dinner yearly, but when the bigger time comes we do a major party, 10 yr., 20 yr, 35th, and so on

[Perna]

Can you talk to him at all, ask why he doesn't want to go in a mild, not upset way? I doubt it's the money, being off could be scary to him, he may not know what to "do." One reads about the trouble some men have with retirement. He could just be a work-a-holic?

[SweetSunshine]

Well last night I told myself .. girl.. we are going out without him. I got dressed up like I would normally to go out . Got my hair and face spiffied up. He was still sleeping at 8:30 pm! Grrrrrr He woke up while I was getting dressed and said where are you going? I said I am going to a movie. He was like ohhh that sounds good. I just rolled my eyes. He just made his little way into my plans! Double Grrrrr. So I thought well we are going to throw this off a bit. I'm going out to eat first and if we dont make it to the movie.. cause I knew he was going along just for the movie. Well we got done eating in time to hit one of the movies. Darnnnn Grrrrrrrrrr. He sat there and acted all lovey dovey when we were watching it. We went and saw Man of the Year btw and it was funny. He had his arm around me and tried to kiss me a couple times. Blah blechy. Trying to suck up to me .. aint gonna work buddy! We get home last night and he said so where we goin tomorrow? I"m like what????? You gotta work.. we arent going anywhere.. I am though lol. He said well I wanna go somewhere. So now we got plans to go do some Christmas shopping. I hate it that I got so upset. But he does it to me every year. AND the only reason I think he is changing it up now is because we have marraige T on Wednesday and he might get yelled at lol. I was ready for that to happen lol. Soooo.. we'll see how this all goes today.

Thanks for all your hugs, and advice and everything. You guys are so nice !!!!!!!! And I am sorry I sounded like such a well you know. But I was feeling really hurt by him. And this is what I do Iguess when I feel hurt. Lotsa hugs to you guys. TC!!!!

Hugz
Bethy

[nothemama8]

if you know he's going to do this beat him at his own game, make dinner reservations ahead, then the night of the celebration spring it on him, tell him he's your guest because he was sooooo intellegent for marrying you

[Boopers]

Oh Bethy,
I am so sorry. This just wasn't fair to you. I am sending lot's and lot's of hugs your way!
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Linda