[katheryn]

im struggling with my day to day relationships with my family, trying to include them in as much as possible and still not not meeting all there needs, hubby seems distant most of the time not hearing me when i try to hold a conversation with him, down to being snappy a lot, just some of the looks some of there actions are now starting to hurt me im trying my best to keep my family going but this is seeming harder each day, nobody seems to see that im struggling

[razeljenny]

Let youself know it is ok to feel stressed. On the other hand...you may need to write down what it is that you haven't been getting in your world and see if you can provide yourself simple things that you do just for you. I often get that way when I haven't done something just for myself. It might be going to a store and buying myself a piece of jewelry. Maybe joining a meditation class or buying myself some cd's just for me or going out and getting "my movie rental"

So by your meeting a special desire for just you and feeling great it can lift your mood and cause a chain reaction. During this time of year, we all need to be a tad selfish, since the media sells ideas of gifts for others. To be honest neglecting self happiness fullfillment causes the whole house to vibrate that way. break out and start feeling great, watch how others will catch your wave and it will take much less work than family counceling, expensive gift guessing, and cooking too much. Great blessings your way. Let me hear what you do. Razeljenny ps hope you don't mind my idea.

Your whole family is under deep stress, right now. As a mother you are the one carrying an heavy load. Not to be able to get your husband to talk with you, must be such a frustrating thing. I do know though, that your husband loves you dearly! I think he's like most men... locking it up inside, rather than talk about it. That doesn't mean that he's not thinking a lot about your situation and about you. You on the other hand is a woman in need to talk and to get heard by the one you love. This is not an easy combination in your present life situation. Your husband is good with his words in written form... Kathy... they tell you a lot.
Try to get a moment of silence sitting down... look at him and say that you really need him in this. Maybe say to him that you know he's hurting too... and that you would both feel better fighting this together... in a more open way.

I don't know... I'm no expert... just my thoughts about this.
I had to write a reply to your post, because I care so much about the two of you and your kids.

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[SpazKatt]

*hugs* and support!

[biplol]

~hugs~

[therealme]

therealme loves you
he might not say it ,but he do
he finds it hard to talk
finds it easier to walk
walk in his safe mind
where no-one can find
when he thinks of their woes
his mind takes to its toes
it hurts him to see
no leaves on their tree
no family around
he falls to the ground
baptised in his tears
his worlds nothing but fears

[Fuzzybear]

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