Just trying to cope...

OKay, this is my first post.

I have an 8 year relationsip with a man that is severly depressed, to the point where it is affecting all aspects of his life, including his relationship with our daughter.

Baring the brunt of his constant turmoil of feelings is taking its toll on me. He is soon to go to the Doctor and hopefully they will get him on some medications. Unfortunately we do not know what he can safely take because he suffered a closed head injury when he was a teen that affected the anger centers of his brain.

All in all, day to day life is becoming so hard that I almost dread waking in the morning. Usually, he deprives himself of sleep, then his mood is horrid in the morning, even with his resenting having to wake up. He is constantly becoming more and more distant form everyone and everything. He is hating the job that he loved, he is very distant from our daughter now as well. The only thing he does is sit in front of his computer and play videos games.

I am at my wits end. We are in couples therapy now, but the ONLY time he will even make an attempt to actually talk is when we are in the office for that 1 hour, once a week. At home, Our daughter and I barely exist unless he needs something. I am so busy taking up the slack around home that I meet myself coming down the hall sometimes. I know this is the illness making him like this, but it can get so hard dealing with this every moment of every day...

Does anyone have any good suggestions on coping measures I might use? I have no one here I can really talk to. I feel so alone in all this...

{{{{{Rhian}}}}}

Maybe that injury is now causing his depression. Brain injuries really do a number on a persons whole being...changing their personalities, depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses.

I'm glad you are reaching out for suport....I'm here if you need me. Maybe we can brainstorm sometime if you like. PM me whenever you want!

Hugssssssssssss
Jean

Hello and welcome to Psych Central. I hope things get better for you soon, and your husband gets on medication soon.. It sounds like you may need some support as well. You may want to consider talking to a therapist yourself. Depression sometimes takes the largest toll on the family. NAMI and DBSA also have some good support groups for family members. The crisis hotline is 1-800-273-TALK, if you need to talk to someone. Try not to neglect your own mental health due to being the caregiver of someone who has a mental health issue. You owe it to yourself to be well, and productive yourself. hoping the best for you and your family Soidhonia