Ive been dumped.

A week before xmas, because he cant handle my symptoms. I have PTSD, DID, BPD and Panic Disorder. I can understand but I just cant help but think he could hae waited until after christmas.

I dont know how i feel about it yet. Im kind of numb.

[lenjan]

(((((((hugs)))))))) sorry to hear. This stuff is hard for "normal" people to understand. I know that doesn't make it any easier to take.

Thanks candy.

It helps that I understand why he cant deal with them or chooses not to. I am a handful sometimes so his reasons are valid.

i'm sorry.........xoxoxo pat

[Perna]

I'm sorry. You sure it's not just a bad fight/misunderstanding?

(((( Rainbowzz ))))

[nothemama8]

we're here for ya sweetie

[desirae]

so sorry to hear that Rainbows...I agree he should have delayed it, but then again being with family and friends extra around these seasonal occasions should help clear your mind and keep him out of it temporarily.

[Wants2Fly]

I'm sorry this happened to you. I know what it feels like. Maybe there's really no good time . . . I hope your family and friends are able to comfort.

Well i will be honest I havent dealt with this well.

tonight i went and slept with another ex thinking it would take my mind off it and it just made everything worse, not to mention now i feel used and disposed of.

how do i explain this one

Thinking of calling for emergency appointment.

[Wants2Fly]

Rainbowz, sleeping with an X seems to be a fairly frequent occurrence. I'm no shrink, so I'm not going to try to pretend I know why we do this, but you are certainly not alone in that impulse.

Please try not to beat yourself up for this or for why your ex left. I internalize these things, and I think a lot of us at the forums are the kind of super-sensitive people who do.

Be nice to you. Imagine how you would treat yourself by kind of stepping outside yourself, and looking at everything that has happened as if it were your very best friend. I bet you would be kind and understanding if this was happening to someone else.

As Pat always says -- xoxoxox

sweetheart, everyone does the "sleep with the ex" thing......it's in our nature to seek comfort and acceptance where we can find it. don't beat yourself up over that. it's over with.....move on from that.......

as Wants said, give yourself a treat. get a massage...that ALWAYS helps me when i'm feeling alone and hurt. light a lot of candles and take a hot bath. play some really loud music and dance til you can't.

we're here for you........xoxoxo pat

[DenVII]

Well, now you know another thing that doesn't work.

Just keep searching for what DOES work.

Considering the time of year......a quick appointment to talk to a pro might just be a good idea.

I remember well when I got unceremoniously dumped on December 17th of 1987.

I was sleeping in a sleeping bag on the floor of a new and strange apartment and not sleeping much and thinking that this was the worst night of my life and this would SURELY be the worst Christmas of my life.

Both were true.

However......things DID get better, and I think I am now at the happiest point in my life.

Although it may seem now that things are very black.....things WILL get better.

Just hang in there and take it one day at a time and get to some friends for support.

You will get through this.

If I did it, anybody can do it, because I was in a bad way.