[emptyandhostile-]

So I woke up this morning at least expecting a "happy valentines day babe" or a love note. I woke up hoping, but when I found nothing I pretty much asked myself "If i was actually surprised" I know me and my boyfriend don't have any money right now until the beginning of the month. So he can't get me anything, and we can't go on a date or anything like that. But you can still be romantic, and show someone you are thinking about them without having any money? I'm just so frustrated because the other day I told him I needed him to be more affectionate because I felt like we were distant, but it turned into him saying he's not being able to because I was awful to him and hurt him the past. (so basically saying he was hostile about everything) but I believe us hurting each other was pretty damn mutual. I used to be a bit of a pill. I would lash out, and have crazy episodes. But I know it's mental health issues, and I'm working on getting my emotions more stabilized, and I have gotten a lot better at handling things.

Last valentines day was awful I spent it drunk on a couch by myself listening to music when I was dating someone else (because he was a bit of a ***). Today is always the worse day. My fb newsfeed is all girls who are like " look at how romantic and awesome my boyfriend is, we get to do this together, and he got me this" and I'm just sitting over here like " pfft that's great for you and everything"

[NWgirl2013]

All of us in dysfunctional situations have to stick together. We have to stop having expectations that others are going to make us happy on any level.
Please do something nice for you today.
Make it as nice a day as you can, For You!
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO YOU!

[Frankbtl]

Hi, I do get the "traditional" approach but to me "traditional" can be so limiting/restrictive. So I'm going out on a limb here and saying why not text him "happy valentines, babe" or something like that? Afterall it can be a two way street to tell each other how you feel about them, so just take that opportunity to let him know........if you feel that way about him.
Then if he doesn't give you anything positive back.....talk to him about it, get an explanation, get something you can work with him on (if you want to work on it with him, of course!). Just give him a litttle time to reply though
As for everyone else showing off what they got, well that's great, really nice, be pleased for them, but know that there's a lot more to a meaningful/loving/solid relationship than just.......if you're right there was absolutely no chance of him affording anything.........and yours may be even stronger than theirs despite not getting anything.
I would have a gentle word with him about even picking some wild flowers for you would be nice next time around though
Best wishes
Alison

[Trippin2.0]

Do you know for a fact that he recognizes Valentines day as a "thing"?

You say last year you were with someone else, so this is your first VDay together... I'm guessing if he's generally not the thoughtless type that he probably doesn't celebrate it
and if you 2 haven't spoken about it, he may have assumed you don't, just like you may have assumed he does.....

I don't do the VDay thing, and apparantly its not uncommon.

Either way, whether he does celebrate or if you're not sure, I agree with the idea that you text him a Happy VDay message and take it from there.

[Marshellette]

I actually decided that I wasn't attracted to someone and would rather stay home working out of my work from home office making money this Valentine's day.

[healingme4me]

Could have bought yourself a rose or grocery store priced bouquet, and had it delivered, or sitting there, From, Love, You Know Who

I'd been doing this, for myself, past few years.

Talking about doing something nice, for yourself.

Ever been to dinner, on this night? Places are packed, ugh....

There's other nights that are better.

Sorry, your man, is unwilling, to let bygones be bygones, for such an evening. Homemade dinner, candles, stream a.movie...geesh...

If he needs a bif, upside the noggin...you can seek out volunteers

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[Alone & confused]

Got one for ya...... I woke up to my daughter joking with my bf about "are y'all going to get married on Valentines Day?" My bf said ,"no, she's too bipolar for me to marry. She hates me more days than she loves me & I can't deal with that!" But since then he took me to the bar so it's all good! Todays all about CHOCOLATE & CRAP anyway right?

[kala83]

I kind of get what you mean...but sort of not...I ended up hanging out with my boyfriend last night and doing stuff...I was hoping to be taken out to dinner to get roses, lol something stuff and choclates...cause this was what i was told was gonna go on...

and when it wasn't fully what I got it...made me feel badly a lil but I did not want to complain cause I was with him and he was giving me attension....he is going to school right now and working and we can't do the kinds of thing we would really like to be doing right now...

but I know its not entirely his fault....its kind of sad but nither one of us know how to be truly in a "good" relationship.

but none of my partners in the past have been incredibly sooo romantic with me anyway... I wish I could say this truly did not bug me but it does to a degree...and it truly has nothing to do with him....its simply the fact of I have never been treated extra special by someone else...and I would like to feel that way every now and then....I have a lot going on in my life right now and being able to spend time....with my SO is important to me....

I allow things like this to get to me too easily and get me depressed and I always feel weak and immature after I end up doing it...cause I guess I feel like why I am being emotional over this....he did do stuff for you he got us sweets from the store...and he bought me a rose...lol this is more then a lot of people in the past...

i guess its also the fact I felt like i had to ask for it...there is nothing wrong with asking for what you want in life that makes you happy but to a degree sometimes it feels like I wish I did not have to...ask

[Alone & confused]

I can relate to Kala. I hate having to REMIND my bf to be Thoughtful & sentimental & . I got flowers,a card & candy, but he sent my daughters to go pick it out for me. But it's the thought. That was Only After I made a big deal about how it was just another day and I haven't gotten anything for Valentine's Day in the six years we have been together! I don't like feeling like I guilted him into "a romantic gesture". I wish it came natural to men, but it seems as though they have to be reminded what a woman wants or needs from them. lucky for us men aren't as hard to figure out. Lol!

[kala83]

even though I do have to remind the boy I know he intentions are good he puts a lot of pressure on himself when it comes to "us"