[niceguy]

'Say something I'm
Giving up on you... And I'm
Sorry that I couldn't get you...
Anywhere I would have followed you,
But say something coz I'm giving up on you..'

[lightinthesky]

I was writing this to my ex when he broke up to me, then every time I would write to him he would just ignore it.. if you want to chat you can pm me anytime!

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[Frankbtl]

Hi niceguy, that song certainly strikes a chord with me!!
Think I've an idea of where you're coming from, but do you want to talk a bit more about your situation? Would like to try to help if I can.
Alison

[SeekingZen]

Hi Niceguy,

I can't listen to this song anymore without crying...my heart is broken.

Originally Posted by niceguy

'Say something I'm
Giving up on you... And I'm
Sorry that I couldn't get you...
Anywhere I would have followed you,
But say something coz I'm giving up on you..'

[niceguy]

I am sorry 'Zen' tell me your story. Who has broken your heart and is there still hope?

[SeekingZen]

Hi niceguy,

No hope, I'm afraid. I met someone on an online dating site. We talked everyday sometimes 7 hours a day for over a month. I realize that sounds crazy. I fell in love with him, but I think I pushed him away by expressing my concern over the geographic distance between us (2 hours). I wish I would have never mentioned it being an issue, because now that he is gone, I know I would go to the end of the earth to be with him. I went though a very painful divorce a few years ago and I never thought I would fall in love again, but I did and I thought he was the one. Now that it's over, I am incredibly heart broken. I have prayed that he will change his mind, call me and tell me he misses me and wants to be with me, but that hasn't happened.

I have told him how I feel since we broke up and he hasn't changed his mind unfortunately. I have forced myself to go back to the online dating site just so I could try to force him out of my system, however, he is all I can think about and no one holds a candle to him and the connection I thought we both had is something I had never experienced before. I wish I could make the pain go away...

What is your story? ((Hugs)) & thank you so much for allowing me to vent.

[Marshellette]

Great song.

[x_BabyG_x]

Similar story here. It sucks.

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I'm sorry to all who have been so incredibly hurt. I am in the same situation. I've been dumped without an explanation and I loved him with all my heart. It is hard to go on without him in my life. Before we were lovers, we were great friends...now we are nothing...I feel like he took my love and broke my heart. No repair is in sight.

[niceguy]

To all my broken hearted friends. May we all find our way to the other side. May we all find our hearts held and nurtured for a change, for all the beauty they posess. I will never love 'the one' any less. However, I try the mantra "it's ok, you love them, you miss them" feel it- and then let it go- with a deep exhaling breath- "i will move on" It has helped. There are too many who Enter our lives and disappear without warning. Yet, when all is said and done, no matter the pain. It made me stronger and ensures my eyes will be open next time

[niceguy]

I think we should start a dating website on here.. Since everyone seems to be single lol

I'm not stronger, I'm not moving on and there will be no next time, not for me.

He has moved on because he does not care, he has a new girl. It's always easier for men. He was a selfish coward.

[niceguy]

Ouch, honey I felt that! Why, is everyone fighting with me on here? I hate to tell you, you are wrong on both counts. You will love again, maybe not as hard but u will- one day and they are not with another. ( this I know for a fact, don't ask me how- but I do)

I'm not fighting with you Niceguy. You're not the one who dumped me! I know you mean well saying my guy has not found another but I do believe he has. Regardless, I am venting on here because I was extremely hurt, I mean to the max, to my breaking point. It doesn't even matter that he's found another, it was what went down between us, how he left me that hurts to my very core. I won't go into details but believe me it was bad. However, you Mr. Niceguy did not leave me. I don't know your story but it sounds like you are leaving someone too. I hope if that's true you will be kind and leave her with her dignity in tact. Sorry if you thought I was referring to you.

PS: I won't love again. I'm not 20 yrs old. I'm on the far side of life. I don't love easily not like this.

[niceguy]

I misjudged- thought u were insinuating that I was left for another.

I am not saying that It doesn't hurt. I am not saying that it will be the same- I do ( first hand) know a 93 year old woman who married an 86 year old man three months ago.... Trust me it's never too late.

Plus, if he was gonna leave and treat you bad- better sooner rather than later...
Time does heal all wounds. Life does go on and one day- I promise it will get better !

I have not done it, recently. When I was younger. I got my comeuppance though, because what you speak of- I know utterly, first hand-now! xxx

[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by niceguy

Ouch, honey I felt that! Why, is everyone fighting with me on here? I hate to tell you, you are wrong on both counts. You will love again, maybe not as hard but u will- one day and they are not with another. ( this I know for a fact, don't ask me how- but I do)

We might not. Nobody can tell you for sure if love will come along or not. And speaking for myself I feel like even IF I will love again it will never be the same because it just hurts too much. I'll always be scared to give myself all to someone and feelings because if it's gone then I'll be gone too and for the second time I doubt I'll survive.

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[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by Heartlight

I'm not fighting with you Niceguy. You're not the one who dumped me! I know you mean well saying my guy has not found another but I do believe he has. Regardless, I am venting on here because I was extremely hurt, I mean to the max, to my breaking point. It doesn't even matter that he's found another, it was what went down between us, how he left me that hurts to my very core. I won't go into details but believe me it was bad. However, you Mr. Niceguy did not leave me. I don't know your story but it sounds like you are leaving someone too. I hope if that's true you will be kind and leave her with her dignity in tact. Sorry if you thought I was referring to you.

PS: I won't love again. I'm not 20 yrs old. I'm on the far side of life. I don't love easily not like this.

I know how you feel. You are not alone feeling this way. Xx

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[niceguy]

Nobody can tell for sure. You are right. However, it saddens me to think you will never try again because of the pain you have endured.
I am sorry, you have been hurt -nobody deserves it, but the idea is to look for the lessons so that your next attempt will hopefully have a better outcome.

Q: knowing then what you know now, would you have fallen? Wasn't all the pain worth all of the joy. It couldn't have all been bad, or you wouldn't have fallen in the first place.

[lightinthesky]

Originally Posted by niceguy

Nobody can tell for sure. You are right. However, it saddens me to think you will never try again because of the pain you have endured.
I am sorry, you have been hurt -nobody deserves it, but the idea is to look for the lessons so that your next attempt will hopefully have a better outcome.

Q: knowing then what you know now, would you have fallen? Wasn't all the pain worth all of the joy. It couldn't have all been bad, or you wouldn't have fallen in the first place.

I honestly don't know the answer for your question. End was too painful and because drugs were involved I don't know if the person I loved ever was real, he told me himself that it wasn't him. It's complicated I guess. Look at me know, I barely exist on daily basis.
I do want to try again and I'm still hoping but I just believe that this kind of love comes often into your life. I don't believe that it will happen just because it would be sad if it didn't. Maybe life is just sad for some of us. But then even if it will come imagine how scared I will be that one day I will have to face a terrible end again? Maybe even worse than this one? Is it worth it? I don't know.

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[River11]

Originally Posted by lightinthesky

... even IF I will love again it will never be the same because it just hurts too much. I'll always be scared to give myself all to someone and feelings because if it's gone then I'll be gone too and for the second time I doubt I'll survive.

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It's like the women's workers said to us years ago while I was resident in a women's refuge : you will learn to love without giving over your whole self.
Part of that comes through letting love rise up, especially now, in yourself for yourself.