Can you love those you have not met??

People say you can fall in love without meeting a person? I do think this is true yet others would say impossible, just sometimes you can feel such a strong connection to a person online. My ex girlfriend once told me that I know nothing about love, that hurt me deeply and has confused me ever since in the sense that what is love to one person is not love to another. I guess we all have our own levels and views on love. How much do you need to give? Is it ever enough...

I'm not sure what the answer is, but I would love to hear the the story behind your questions. Are you in an online relationship now?

I believe you can, depending on how you interact (Skype etc) but I do think there is a danger of falling in love with the idea of someone rather than the person themselves.

It is so easy for anyone to write what they want and convey what they want, which is why I think it's vital you do a lot of video chats etc. Body language and facial expressions give away sooo much and can change the whole feeling of a conversation.

Why do you ask?

I have an online crush haha. We text everyday and skype now and then (usually we're just too busy and timezones are annoying) but whenever she texts I always respond as fast as I can and love to talk to her. I'm not fooling myself into believing that if we do finally meet her in person I'll fall for her for real but out of all the people I know, I really love talking to her the best so yes. I do believe you can love someone you've never met. But allme is right. It's dangerous to fall in love with the idea of someone rather than the person themselves.

I know it can happen. It has happened to me.
As far as giving love, you can only give what you have in you. There are people who may never be satisfied with our all. Our best is all we can ever ask of ourselves.

I think for sure. Perhaps though as many find out, the person behind the keyboard is not the person you will meet in real life. It is far easier to be anyone you want to be online and completely different in real life. that is perhaps why people are more open and say things more easily, when it is not face to face. Subsequently, though those emotions may not be real. Simply an act. Plus, the tone of an email/text or chat cannot always be accurately measured, because there is no real tone to them. (thats why most jokes can be misconstrude). Having said all that. I totally, one hundred percent believe in it.

As for the ex that told you that. It was probably not meant that you don't feel love the way you should. It probably meant that she wanted you to love her in a different way, to what you were. Or, it could be that your behaviour did not suggest you had loved another with complete abandon. In order to know that love, you must know true pain -i.e had your heart smashed, but able to repair it and love again, without the bitterness that the pain had brought on initially.

Hope this helps.

I believe it's possible, I fell in love with someone I met online, it went on for 8 years until it nearly destroyed my marriage .
I think I was blind to the fact that he is actually a sociopath, but no matter what I will always see the good inside him, love is a personal thing, no one can tell you how and when to love or how much it enough.
but if you have to question how much love you are getting back ... chances are it isn't enough.
Then it's time to find someone who gives as much as you hand out.

For me I had to recognise that he was my nemisis, he was my got to person during my episodes and it was destroying everything including our friendship.