Overprotected?

My mother was overprotective, I used to think that it was because on some level she cared about me, even though she treated me badly.
Now I've just had a moment. Her over protectiveness was nothing to do with concern for me, it was all about CONTROL she HAD to have control at all times.
She didn't want me to have friends or enjoy myself she liked me miserable, she liked the power to crushed and destroy. She enjoyed the fact that she could destroy my life.
So I think a 'overprotective' mother is an abuser.
Or maybe an engulfer who wants you all to herself.

It is hard being a mom, we worry all the time about our children, sometimes causing overprotectiveness. I'm sorry she is a bad as all that, control is a hard thing to deal with, it may seem like she wants to control you but maybe she is trying to protect you from harm in any way. She should not let you not have friends although, she is probably having her own mental problems? I also used to think that about my mom, which was in some way your situation, she didn't like me having friends and drove me away from them, and visa versa, but she thought it was for my own good as i was becoming an alcoholic.

Hey Marmaduke. Sounds like you are coming to terms and finding out what is real! Kinda scarey isn't it? I do not know your mother but you very well could be right about her trying to control your life. Maybe having friends while at the same time keeping her separate could be helpful. If your mom is really important make sure she knows and feels that. You may be able to recognize sometime soon what her motives are. I still think keeping the relationships separate for a while may help you sort things through and also help you decide how to handle this in the future. Good Luck!