[AFB911]

About 5 months ago my girlfriend dumped me. I met her at work (McDonald's of all places) and it seemed so perfect at the time. We were dating for about 6 months but i just felt so close to her. I have had problems in the past and i don't really trust people all that much but I trusted her for some reason. When she broke up with me she typed me a list of things I did wrong and said that maybe if I changed she would consider going back out with me. I talked to her for a few weeks after that and we got into a fight. We havn't talked since. I called her mom a few times just to see how she was doing because i was afraid to talk to her directly. She even sunk as low as to spread rumors around my prom when she doesn't even go to my school (she went with a guy from my school just to go). My senior year is gonna be starting soon and all my friends are all excited about it. I just cant stop thinking about her. Everyone is just telling me that I am too young to know what love is but shouldn't I be able to feel it when it comes. I was so sure about this and i still want her to at least talk to me. I saw her today at the store and she snubbed me. She had her boyfriend with her but I suppose that means she can't even smile in my direction. Since she left me I have been getting involved with a lot of drugs and recently sex has been a big thing. I figured i could keep my mind off her that way. It just makes me feel worse because I promiesed her never to do it and now i feel like total scum. I am lost right now. Life just feels so much worse than it did before I was with her. I am compeletely clueless as to what to do next. I want to enjoy life again but it seems that I can't figure out how to live anymore. Thanx for reading.

[curlyq]

Have you thought about getting therapy? You are not scum but a worthwhile person. You are going through a rough time and people often turn to alcohol, drugs, eating too much, gambling, lots of sex and the list goes on. I think you may benefit from some counseling for addictions. Many people have gotten it and recovered a lot. It's natural to hurt after losing someone you loved. It's a grief process. If you just continue doing lots of drugs and lots of sex you may do yourself more harm than good. You are hurting and also hurting yourself more with the drugs, etc. If I were you I would as quickly as possible seek therapy because the sooner you do it the sooner you are going to find support, help for your problems, a better love life, and better self-worth feelings. I know because I went through that type of therapy and have never regretted it. You're worth taking good care of even if I sound a little corny here. I don't mean to, just trying to help. You can find help in your phone book, too, usually under psychologists, or counseling or social services. I hope things will improve for you but you need to take the first step first-to get help.

"Things work out best for the people
Who make the best out of the way things work out."
--- Author Unknown ---

[amandaheelen]

A good idea of whether youa re in love is to ask yourself: Do I want what's best for her or o I want what I want? that should give you an idea of what love actually is. Love is wanting someone else to be happy. As for what to do? take upa new hobby. If you always wanted to learn a foregin language, go for it. (besides, you can use foul language in another language. say it sweetly and she'll probably nod her head and smile as you call her a jezebel.) You CAN have some fun with an ex. or take up another hobby. go out with friends. meet other women. you'll find other things to do. One day you're going to be glad she's not with you anymore because you'll be with someone who lives to make YOU happy. and you'll want ot make her happy and then you'll forget about what's her name.