Update - It's over

So I was here a couple of months ago talking about some things going on with me and my husband and I don't remember how much I shared, but I discovered a lot of emails on his iPad that were setting up sex dates with people, men, women, transexuals, and prostitutes. He was also putting ads on Craigslist and on another webpage advertising himself as a driver/security for prostitutes. He was a member of at least 10 fetish websites and hook up sites that I could find.

I gathered as many printouts as I could, especially the ones offering money and pot for sex and brought them to an attorney who I later hired.

I made him move out of the house and we are now getting a divorce.

I will be moving to the town my parents live in because my kids can no longer go to their school and this town has a good school system. As a result of us separating, the school has taken away my son's scholarship. My husband's friend owns the school and because my son is my husband's step son the owner of the school is retaliating by taking away my son's scholarship at the end of the year. My husband also accrued a huge debt with the school because every year when the fees were due, he said he was paying them but really wasn't. He got a job at the school and was supposedly having money taken from his paycheck to pay off the debt, but I later found out it wasn't true. So, now that we are getting divorced, the owner of the school wants me to pay the bill. I told my attorney the story and she is fighting to have my husband pay it.

Anyway, we are in divorce limbo, but I am glad that I am free from such a liar and a cheat. Fortunately my bipolar is stable to the point where I can handle all this and I will be getting a job so that I can go off disability and not have to depend on the child support that I anticipate will be a fight with my husband to get every week. For now he is paying the mortgage and once the house is sold, he will start paying the child support.

I am not sure how I am going to afford or even get approved to get an apartment, but I want to sell the house because I know my husband well enough to know that he will stop paying the mortgage and the house will get foreclosed on. I want to at least be able to get my half of the equity while we still have it.

So things are suckish, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I never have to put up with the crap from our relationship any more.

Good for you for getting out of such a difficult relationship! I wish you all the best and hope that any unpleasantness will soon just be a distant memory and everything will work out!

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Good for you. It's a rough road but sounds like you had good reasons to get out and in the end it will be better for you and your kids to be out of there. Kids definitely do not need be growing up with a father figure that is a cheater and promiscuous. not that being a wife to such a man is a lesser evil but just saying... it will be good for you all, all the way around

I have yet to finish up with my divorce paperwork, and it's not nearly as complex as what you're facing with a mortgage and bills and such. I feel for you there. My ex left me for the same reasons you're leaving him. She wanted t life of parties and promiscuity apparently. Pretty sure she cheated too but that's not been 100% proven.

Just glad to see you stand up for what's right and kick him to the curb. *cheers her on*

I am so sorry this happened to you and your kids it is heartbreaking

Wow, in sorry that you were in pain and had someone betray you like that, but on the other hand I admire your strength and envy your Will power to get up an make a life for you and your children. Today's struggles are the build up to tomorrow's strengths. High five to you sister xxx

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Good to see an update from you! Sorry, it's a nightmare, right now. Some day, you'll look back and see how much strength and resolve it took to get here..keep us posted, when you can

Wow, just wow

I know this has been one long, drawn-out, painful road that you have been walking and I am SO proud of you for finally giving yourself permission to be free from this man.

Yeah i think i left a comment on your original message. Sometimes life sucks doesn't it and you were unlucky. You picked a bad 'un. All you can do now is pick up the pieces and in time draw a line under it and put it down to experience. We all take a chance with relationships. Sometimes you hit lucky sometimes not. You drew the short straw. But you sound upbeat, your BPD is stable, you have your kids and things will get better i'm sure. Lve and Peace. xx

We are having a meeting with the attorneys in two weeks to hash it all out.

Awesome to see someone getting out from under an awful relationship with their sanity intact

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