[BubonicPlague]

So I went on my first date and I was pretty disappointed.

I was thankful to even go somewhere.

We took a train to Salt Lake City.

We went to the Mormon temple. I was talking to my date, Austin, about his religion involved with the afterlife, which he explained. We went to the Mormon temple. There I got to know more about their afterlife, and two missionaries were trying to get me to convert to being Mormon.

Then we went to lunch at a deli since I mentioned I didn't want to go anywhere too expensive.

We went back to the temple afterwards and that's when he asked me if I wanted to go back to the train. I said yes and we went home early.

He said that he felt bad for not planning the date. He wanted it to be for me and he just let me decide what I wanted to do. But I didn't know what all was there to do, so I thought that we'd might as well leave.

We didn't talk much, and he just didn't really seem to have fun on the date.

I didn't even get a kiss or hug from him. He just didn't seem to be interested.

He just did it all to be nice for me, it's not like he had any feelings for me.

I don't ever want to go on a date ever again. It will be the same with every guy I meet. I think I don't ever want to consider falling in love with anyone, because it won't happen.

I don't even want to talk to Austin again. There's nothing between us, and there never will be.

[hvert]

That sounds like an extremely disappointing first date! You will have better dates, probably with someone else. Did this guy take you on a date just to convert you??

[BubonicPlague]

Originally Posted by hvert

That sounds like an extremely disappointing first date! You will have better dates, probably with someone else. Did this guy take you on a date just to convert you??

No, I just had some questions that I asked to the missionaries, and then they started talking me into being Mormon. That's the thing with Mormons, their main goal is try and bring everyone into their social circle as much as possible.

[waiting4]

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

No, I just had some questions that I asked to the missionaries, and then they started talking me into being Mormon. That's the thing with Mormons, their main goal is try and bring everyone into their social circle as much as possible.

I've known several members of the LDS church and I agree, they like to bring people into their social circle....it's not a bad thing, actually but can be a bit overwhelming for some people. I totally get that.

I know the date must have seemed terribly disappointing to you and obviously there wasn't any chemistry between the two of you, but please don't totally give up. Everyone has bad first dates occasionally....I certainly have. :| Please consider giving it another try...not with the same guy of course....You might be pleasently surprised

Originally Posted by hvert

That sounds like an extremely disappointing first date! You will have better dates, probably with someone else. Did this guy take you on a date just to convert you??

I was about to post something, when I read your reply. Agree, taht my question is the same. Weird date. I wouldn't take my date our first time out to my church, and the mormon temple is far more extreme in that sense. it really sounds like he was disappointed taht you didn't get all excited about his religion and it seems to me like it was a test to see where you stand on it right off the bad. Wasn't a date at all. Sorry but he's wierd, don't feel bad, there are normal guys out there, don't let it sway you from going out with others ok?

[BubonicPlague]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

I was about to post something, when I read your reply. Agree, taht my question is the same. Weird date. I wouldn't take my date our first time out to my church, and the mormon temple is far more extreme in that sense. it really sounds like he was disappointed taht you didn't get all excited about his religion and it seems to me like it was a test to see where you stand on it right off the bad. Wasn't a date at all. Sorry but he's wierd, don't feel bad, there are normal guys out there, don't let it sway you from going out with others ok?

I wanted to go to the temple for the scenery of it all, I just wasn't expected to be talked in joining the LDS Church. I had a question about their angel "Moroni", who doesn't have any background or information of him in my Dictionary of Angels.

In fact, a girl in one of my classes who knows Austin told me he wasn't really happy with our date either.

My plan was to avoid him through the whole weak, but he caught up to me as I was going to my 8th period class and asked me why I wouldn't talk to him (even though I haven't been able to for a majority of the day), and that's when I apologized for being rude saying that I didn't really like the date; that I expected much more from him. I was sorry for assuming how great it would be, and he apologized for not planning it well. It made us both feel bad, but at least he was able to sense my energy, and that tells me that he cares a little bit. I just have the feeling that he was doing it just to be nice and all.

All I really wanted was to be hugged and caressed in the date. I want to feel his touch, to be held. That was all I wanted. However, I just don't think he's the right guy for this. He told me during the date that he was expected a friend of his (a girl from Canada) to show and that he "owed her a strip tease". Yeah that is weird to say that, but I mentioned before on my last post in regards to this, he mentioned that he was obsessed with this one chick who lives miles away from my town of Layton and is expected to move close to here; he wants to see her.

So I can't really love him when he has other girls surrounding him right? He just isn't the right guy.

I'm kind of getting sick and tired of waiting around for someone to find me. I feel like time is wasting away and that it will be too late for me (being the only person that I am) to find love. How am I going to have time for that after I turn 18? I'll have to pay attention to road as I drive for my first time, work away as a CNA, go away to Weber State, learn how to pay the bills, and schedule all of this other crap for my appointments and family affairs. I'm definitely not going to have any time once I'm a nurse.

[healingme4me]

If you wanted hugging and caressing, wrong guy. You wanted to know more about one thing, in particular, was it answered?

Yes, schooling and working are busy times, doesn't mean possibilities for finding love stop at 18. Gosh, I know someone who found it, at 50. (well, not their first love, but a good love match, no less )

You'll find time

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[trying2survive]

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

I wanted to go to the temple for the scenery of it all, I just wasn't expected to be talked in joining the LDS Church. I had a question about their angel "Moroni", who doesn't have any background or information of him in my Dictionary of Angels.

In fact, a girl in one of my classes who knows Austin told me he wasn't really happy with our date either.

My plan was to avoid him through the whole weak, but he caught up to me as I was going to my 8th period class and asked me why I wouldn't talk to him (even though I haven't been able to for a majority of the day), and that's when I apologized for being rude saying that I didn't really like the date; that I expected much more from him. I was sorry for assuming how great it would be, and he apologized for not planning it well. It made us both feel bad, but at least he was able to sense my energy, and that tells me that he cares a little bit. I just have the feeling that he was doing it just to be nice and all.

All I really wanted was to be hugged and caressed in the date. I want to feel his touch, to be held. That was all I wanted. However, I just don't think he's the right guy for this. He told me during the date that he was expected a friend of his (a girl from Canada) to show and that he "owed her a strip tease". Yeah that is weird to say that, but I mentioned before on my last post in regards to this, he mentioned that he was obsessed with this one chick who lives miles away from my town of Layton and is expected to move close to here; he wants to see her.

So I can't really love him when he has other girls surrounding him right? He just isn't the right guy.

I'm kind of getting sick and tired of waiting around for someone to find me. I feel like time is wasting away and that it will be too late for me (being the only person that I am) to find love. How am I going to have time for that after I turn 18? I'll have to pay attention to road as I drive for my first time, work away as a CNA, go away to Weber State, learn how to pay the bills, and schedule all of this other crap for my appointments and family affairs. I'm definitely not going to have any time once I'm a nurse.

you have your whole life ahead of you, i wouldn't worry to much, when the time is right love will find you. you never know it could happen in your chosen profession.take care of you and the rest will take care of itself...don't be in so much of a hurry to find love, because not all love is forever and heartbreak really hurts my friend..don't rush, you will find the right person eventually! hope this helps

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

He told me during the date that he was expected a friend of his (a girl from Canada) to show and that he "owed her a strip tease". Yeah that is weird to say that, but I mentioned before on my last post in regards to this, he mentioned that he was obsessed with this one chick who lives miles away from my town of Layton and is expected to move close to here; he wants to see her.

So I can't really love him when he has other girls surrounding him right? He just isn't the right guy.

You can love a guy like that but it won't result in a good situation. You're casting your pearls before swine, so to speak, someone that's never going to reciprocate fully anyway. He's double minded and would be split if his devotion and attention is elsewhere. Not sure why he even bothered asking you out on a date.

I'm kind of getting sick and tired of waiting around for someone to find me. I feel like time is wasting away and that it will be too late for me (being the only person that I am) to find love. How am I going to have time for that after I turn 18?

Love does not work by our timetable, ever. It never happens when you're waiting for it actively... instead you need to stop waiting and just move on with your life and remain open to it in the future whenever it is meant to be. Not trying to be all "fate-minded" but what i mean is, women & men both are far more attractive when they are just living their life happily and enjoying what is - that is, being single and independent.

Also. you're not even 18!? Umm you're in way too much of a hurry for something to happen.

If you won't have time to have love in your life after that changes, why would you pursue it now only to find you have to end it? not being gloomy here but if there is love, it will find a way regardless of your busy-ness. don't be in a hurry because later you'll be too busy, is all I'm saying.

I'll have to pay attention to road as I drive for my first time, work away as a CNA, go away to Weber State, learn how to pay the bills, and schedule all of this other crap for my appointments and family affairs. I'm definitely not going to have any time once I'm a nurse.

Plenty of nurses find love, marriages and companionship. Don't write if off because you'll have a career.

[hvert]

That saying about having to kiss a lot of frogs before your find your prince is kind of true (for men and women). It sometimes takes a lot of time and a lot of disappointing dates before you meet someone you click with. I had a lot more fun dating in college than in high school, for what that's worth.

Austin doesn't sound like the right match for you in a lot of ways. At least you only wasted one date on him, right?